tell the truth .. or .. tall hot blonde??

[frenchy]

so i watched this documentary yesterday called tall hot blonde .. its about how an online thing can go so so so wrong .. she was 18 and lookin for love .. tall and hot too .. he ran into a guy who was 47 and bored .. an exmarine who was kicked out of the corp for bein a drunk .. and of course was the other man .. a young guy about 20 .. the marine tells her he's 18 and just enlisted to go to iraq .. so what could go wrong here ??

 Tell me who's been fooling you?
Tell the truth
Now who's been fooling who?

There you sit there, looking so cool
While the whole show is passing you by
You better come to terms with your fellow men soon, 'cause

The whole world is shaking now, I can feel it
A new dawn is breaking now, I can see it

Tell the truth
Tell me who's been fooling you
Tell the truth
Now who's been fooling who?

It doesn't matter who you are
Or where you're gonna be
Open your eyes and look into your heart

The whole world is shaking now, I can feel it
A new dawn is breaking now, I can see it
See it, yeah, I can see it
See it, yeah, I can see it
See it, yeah

Tell the truth
Tell me who's been fooling you
Tell the truth
Who's been fooling who?

Hear what I say, 'cause every word is true
You know I wouldn't tell you no lies
Your time's coming, is gonna be soon, boy

The whole world is shaking now, I can feel it?
A new dawn is breaking now, I can see it?
See it, yeah, I can see it
See it, yeah, I can see it
I can see it
See it, yeah, I can see it

[frenchy]

thats supposed to be she ran into a guy ..

anyway how everything got so screwed up was everyone was lyin .. except the young guy who got murdered .. and its all a true story .. seems the girl egged the marine on till he shot the other guy .. and the kicker was in the end the girl was not who she said she was either .. she was actually her mother who was short and heavy ..so the subject came up that everyone lies online .. i can't say thats true cause i've met some people online who were what they said they were .. and i've met some who weren't .. i think its a lot like meetin someone standin online at the supermarket .. what do you know about them at first other than what they tell you ?? if you do get to know them sooner or later all the bullshit will come out tho . you can't keep the lid on that shit for too long .. i agree we all wanna look better if we can but if you're 60 you ain't gonna look like you're 40 if you talk like you're 25 .. so no matter how old you say you feel it won't effect how old you look all that much .. and there are crazies everywhere not just online .. i think online is just one more way to meet someone .. in addition to one of your friends settin you up on a blind date.. or your aunt ruthie tryin to .. but my best advice to anyone is to tell the truth . its the easiest thing to remember .. what do you guys think ??

[T2Friends]

I was fairly active with an on-line dating site for a while.  I went on some dates and met some nice guys.  I can't really say that too many "lied".  Like you said Frenchy, if you are going to meet someone, you might be able to shave a few years off you real age, but not that much.  I know many complain that women "fudge" their weight and size a lot...again, if you are going to meet someone in person, you probably need to stick fairly close to the truth.  For me it never made sense to try to be anyone or anything different than what I am.  I mean, my point was to meet someone that would like me...so why would I try to be someone else?  

I have met folks from EONs too. And all of them were who they said they were, really nice people.  Because I have had very positive experiences, I am a big advocate for on-line dating and social networking sites like this one.  I feel it helps me keep connected and socially active in many ways.  Beside the fact that I have made some great friends.  Right?

PS that is a really cute video.

[frenchy]

you got the right idea t .. why lie ?? its not like when you meet you can miraculously transform yourself into somethin else .. or make yourself 4 inches taller or 10 years younger .. just be yourself .. if thats what they liked about you to begin with then thats what you wanted anyway wasn't it ??  

[T2Friends]

Yup.  In fact the dating site I choose was a BBW site, so I never had to worry that someone didn't know about my size and I knew that those that responded did not have an issue with it either.  Like I said, when I was active I talked with and went on plenty of dates.  I met a couple of men who I am still friendly with and one with whom I have a casual relationship (for lack of a better term).  It is mostly on-line because he moved away in the last year, but when he gets back to the area we can still get together and we care about each other, well it works for us anyway.   

I think there are many here that understand how intense an on-line relationship can be, even if you don't get to be together physically.  The bonds and the emotions can be every bit as strong as any RT relationship.  And the more honest and up-front about what you want and who you are as a person, the better that relationship.  And of course, you have to be wary at first, careful about boundaries and smart about who you choose to get involved with, but that is also very true of RT interactions.  Con artist and thieves have always been part of the dating scene, taking advantage of unsuspecting women (and men).  We all need to pay attention to the little red flags and that feeling in your tummy that maybe something isn't right, but those are reasons enough not to reach out, make connections and have some fun - "let's just be careful out there".  (Anybody remember Hill Street Blues?)   

[crestofwaves]

I am living this with a member of the family who is doing the lying. I am so upset over it. It's been going on for a couple of years, we met the other party and love her.  I can't mention too much...

The one Eons personI met was who he said he was, for the most part, except for a problem with alcohol which doesn't seem to go with conservatism, but I wasn't marrying him, so I did not judge it. 

Such strong bonds can be formed even online. Why mess it up with lies?

[ProblemAgain]

doesn't have to be online to have people be full of it. a number of years back, there was a wonderfully romantic story about true love in malibu. seems a hot young blonde driving a ferrari met a stunningly handsome young man driving a rolls. they hit it off immediately and visited each other's  elegant expensive homes and voila! plans for a wedding....fast forward to just before the wedding....turns out they were both housesitting and the romance bit the dust along with the perceived net worth of the other party. kinda puts a tear in your eye, doesn't it?

[Snagg]

The first couple of women I met through personals ads (Dating sites didn't exist yet) lied their asses off about their appearance - And then got huffy about it when I immediately lost interest. They called me "shallow" and claimed that I had "something against big women" - And they got even angrier when I pointed out to them that it wasn't their weight, it was that if I wanted to be with a shameless, narcissistic liar who treated me with contempt, then I wouldn't have gotten divorced in the first place.

I have to admit that I never even wonder what happened to them. I doubt that they learned any lessons from our interaction, and are probably still blaming their solitude on others for expecting to be treated with respect and honesty.