Giving Up Things

[Wayne Goodwin]

Have you ever given up something in life for happiness mentality physically ?

[uno,dos,3]

I gave up my wives. After they disappeared I looked high and low for them...much like OJ Simpson...my search took me across the whole country...eventually the green fees made the search costs prohibitive. Now that the mental anxiety over their whereabouts no longer plagues me I've shaved 2 strokes off my game... I also have lowered my golf score and couldn't be happier..  

[crestofwaves]

Hasn't everyone had to give up something they really wanted?  My question would be, "Is there anyone in this group that has NEVER had to give up something you really wanted."

[Wayne Goodwin]

No ! Forced by events yes !

[blithe spirit]

I'm trying to clarify..are we talking about something you would consider a sacrifice?

There are many things I have chosen not to do that might have made me happy but I made choices along the way...and even if events conspired against me or not they were still choices I made. Our choices always have consequences...none of us slide through life unscathed.
I have given up relationships, given up jobs, given up places I've lived...

[Wayne Goodwin]

Think ya hit it on ta nail Blithe ...

[Lifesighs]

I've walked away from two marriages where I could have stayed at home and been a housewife however being happy was more important than all the material possessions and even security.

In both cases I started over from scratch, new job, new place to live, the first time I didn't even have a car. What I learned is that I'm capable of making things happen and I will survive no matter what life throws at me. I have no fears.

[carrie cavanaugh]

My first marriage, I was a stay at home mom, 5 kids and just felt I could never do enough.  He then had to go out of the country for 6 months (work related)  I began to realize in his absence it wasn't me who was messed up, it was him.  He was controlling , a liar, and sneaky.  I never saw it, my friends did and so did my oldest kids.   He came home and I started calling him on his crap and he tried to manipulate everything I said.  I stood up to him, divorced him, and felt like my self again.

[T2Friends]

I gave up smoking 5 years ago.  I haven't given up on any one person, although I guess you could say there have been a few that gave up on me, so I did the same.  LOL  I certainly have cut some foods out of my life a time or two in order to slim down, so I appreciate the effort you are making in that regard Wayne, good luck to you.  Slow and steady wins the race.  

[Wayne Goodwin]

What foods did ya delete ? I made a sandwich this morning took one bite and threw the bread in the trash . Thanks

[Snagg]

I've made sacrifices for other people - Very few of whom have turned out to have been worth it. It taught me how to be a better judge of character, so the sacrifices were worth it - Just not in the way I'd anticipated.

[frenchy]

eh.. who hasn't .. i gave up smokin about eeee.. i dunno anymore .. 18 or 19 years maybe ?? but then i was only an on and off smoker anyway .. i'd smoke for a few years and then quit for a few years and then go back to smokin for a few and so on .. and i didn't start till later .. most people i knew started in their teens cause they thought it made em look cooler .. NOT ..  i started cause i poked smot .. and i'd go outside on a break with this guy clyde .. ( yeah there really was a guy named clyde ) and the two of us were the resident hippies workin at this place and we'd go around the corner and do a doobie , but to cover it up we'd smoke a cigarette .. i really didn't wanna but he'd say whaddya think they're gonna think if you're out here and not smokin with me ?? so .. i smoked .. and the thing was , after a joint a salem menthol smoke was so so good .. got to where i'd smoke em all the time anyway .. eventually them menthols made me wanna gag . but they put me on the track to tar and nicotene .. and when i smoked .. i smoked .. i didn't do it halfway .. and when i quit i knew enough not to toy with my willpower cause if i did  , i'd be right back to smokin again .. which actually did happen a few times .. gave up drinkin too .. not so much cause i got stupid drunk or pissy and wanna fight cause you'd never see me drunk .. i always had a good buzz on . but never drunk , cept for maybe once or twice a year i'd lose the handle on it .. but i could see how it was startin to effect me and i knew if i kept it up it was only gonna get worse.. you can only bullshit yourself for so long with alcohol .. and now i can still take a drink here and there if i want to ( and sometimes i do )  but i wouldn't recommend that to anyone .. for awhile there i thought i was a drunk , but then i found out , i was just thirsty .. yeah i know i jest here but it coulda been a lot worse .. i hardly ever poke smot anymore but if they legalize it who knows ?? maybe i'll do a toke here and there .. it might help with these backaches that come over me from outta the blue .. i changed some of my eatin habits cause they say you should , you know cut down on the red meat and eat more chicken and fish .. for awhile there i ate so much chicken i had feathers growin outta my ass ..eat more greens and veggies ..  so now i'm just tryin to strike a happy medium .. ( i haven't found any happy mediums to strike tho ) they all get pissed when you strike em .. and the people part ?? ehh.. i can't even talk about that ..  

[Wayne Goodwin]

Well i started smoking because my x wouldn't quit . So i joined her . Got to where i was smoking a carton a week . The last carton of Cig's i bought cost 5 dollars . Sure glad i don't smoke these days . I only tried pot a couple times i found if ya was in a bad mood it made it worst . If in a good mood and especially having sex it was out of sight when ya came . I like Beer but never wanted a beer gut . Wine makes me horny but being in my shape i just can't take of it . Like Joanna said maybe i didn't find the right woman to enjoy sex like a normal person does . First love . I can say i loved her . Then she went back to Tenn. Never got to enjoy being around her like i wanted to . Guess it was good she left . Went to see her 10 years later . Met at a hotel . We kissed . That night she got naked . Since i was separated from my wife i just couldn't do it . I just sat in a chair and looked at it . Next morning we went to where she was staying . Being around her grown kids was OK . Got a lot of hugs from her daughter . Really did get some sweet breast hugs from Angie (17) when i bought her a bottle of wine . Slept with Glenda that week end (No Sex) but i watch her . She drank Beer one after another . Smoked two different kinds of cig's . Menthol and regular . One after another . When i was ready to drive back home we kissed and i never saw her again . I decided it wouldn't work and felt i didn't want her influence affecting my Girls . If i hadn't had kids to raise i probably would have stayed with her .

Frenchy Getting a "Nut" where i live is just shooting off . Love the way ya talk . Think i coulda learned a lot being around ya ....Think we all could ...