Alcohol

[Wayne Goodwin]

Say you are married or have a Boy , Girl friend and He or She has become an Alcoholic . They begin pleading for you to buy their Booze . Would you support their wishes and buy it for them knowing very well how they would react if you didn't  ?

 

[Mickchick]

No

[dwalt]

Nope, that is enabling, been there done that, got the t-shirt and a divorce for it.

[Wayne Goodwin]

A couple years ago my aunt Julia's husband smoked all his life . He lost one of his lungs many years ago . Doctor told him it was killing him . Well it came down to being on Oxygen . He would beg her to buy him the cigarettes . She kept buying them till he died . In a way she contributed to his death ....

[uno,dos,3]

In a way? She assisted in his suicide.

[Snagg]

Been there.

They will bleed you dry, and then move on to the next sucker. Even if they actually love you for who you are, they will still drag you down with them.

[uno,dos,3]

I've got an alcoholic son. I told him that I had no problem with him when he is sober and no use for him when he is drunk......which went in one of his ears and out the other......but it makes me feel better as I hang up on him, tell him to get off my property etc.

I guess he considers himself a classy drunk as he corrects me when I call him a drunk....says he's an 'alcoholic'...to which I reply "you are a drunk....alcoholics go to meetings". Some day I'll buy him the t-shirt.

[Snagg]

My dad was a blackout drunk who tried to murder my brother and I on several different occasions - Just to list the very first of several out-of-control addicts in my life. And I learned the hard way what happens to people who kid themselves that they can "love" or "pray" or "manage" the madness out of those people.

[crestofwaves]

I have lots of experience with addicts as well.  I pray because it makes me feel better, but addiction is a madness.  Going to rehab for families taught me that there is nothing I can do to control their behavior, nothing I can say that will make them change.  The only thing I can do is move on with my life and NOT enable their way of life at all, so NO, I would never in no way buy their drug of choice for them.

One of the worst times in my life was my children's addictions.  I thought my son was going to college and I gave him allowance every week.  Later, I found that my money was buying the poison he was putting into his veins.  That was very very hard for me to reconcile.  I never gave him another cent for anything.  Both are recovering now and taking baby steps to improve their lives, thank God. Do I think prayer helped?  It helped ME for sure.

[Lifesighs]

Nope, if someone isn't a responsible drinker they won't get help from me. I don't know why they would need someone else to buy for them unless they were sponging off you in any case.