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Is Marriage over rated ?

When you got married , did you have a wedding or Justice of the peace ?

What about the second , third , forth or more times ?

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Permalink Reply by dwalt on July 17, 2013 at 11:39am

I was married once and learned my lesson. (smarter than the average bear). Have been with other men but marriage...nope. I do think if you have (or are planning to have) children you should married. But then I'm from the south and kinda old fashioned.

Permalink Reply by uno,dos,3 on July 17, 2013 at 11:56am

I married the first time in a hotel.

The 2nd marriage was in my backyard......that was about 20 years ago........I may not be as smart as dwalt......but I've learned my lesson.

Permalink Reply by uno,dos,3 on July 17, 2013 at 11:57am

Clarification - I've been divorced almost 20 years.

Permalink Reply by crestofwaves on July 17, 2013 at 12:25pm

I don't see the point, really. It's fine. I admire people who are content being married. I was unmarried for about 8 years--but I had boyfriends. I think that is fine as well.

However, the good part of marriage is, if it's a good marriage, I can expect that there will always someone on my side when I need it, no matter what. And in return, so can my mate. I like that part.

Permalink Reply by dwalt on July 17, 2013 at 12:33pm

I understand what you are saying crest, but you can have that without marriage as well. And in some marriages you don't have it. (I was married to one like that)

Permalink Reply by crestofwaves on July 17, 2013 at 12:36pm

Yes, you are right. I don't think I felt so secure when I was in long term relationships as I do about that now, but I married a good man who is on my side. My first husband, not so much.

Permalink Reply by Mickchick on July 17, 2013 at 2:29pm

married in church both times, very small weddings both times. First ended in divorce, second ended in death. Having been single for 14 years, I don't think I could LIVE with anyone any more, so marriage is pretty much a mute point - unless I fall madly in love with someone who wants to marry me and live in separate residences, lol!

Permalink Reply by Wayne Goodwin on July 17, 2013 at 4:29pm

I like that answer ....

Permalink Reply by Lifesighs on July 17, 2013 at 2:58pm

I started with a justice of the peace, my idea because I didn't want all the foo foo expensive stuff.

Second was a small church wedding, no different except a big party afterward.

Third a small church wedding with a small party at a nice restaurant. That was in 1992.

I don't think marriage is over rated if it's to the right person. Finding the right person is a hard thing to do, now that I know how I don't need to do it again.

Permalink Reply by Kim on July 17, 2013 at 3:05pm

I married when I was 18 and pregnant. to be honest, we just wanted to live together but it was 1984 and our parents were all a little flipped out at the idea. To be honest, I'm glad we did NOT live together because I'm sure I would have ended up a poor single mother alone with my kids with a pain in the ass ex boyfriend always around somewhere. (I don't know why but somehow it seems like it was better that we DID marry) I had somewhat of an "elaborate" wedding. NOT by today's standards but a pretty nice one at that! It was in a large beautiful Baptist church I always admired and we were married by a Priest AND a Baptist Minister to satisfy both sides of the family. The reception had a live band, good food, drinks, and the typical 5 tiered cake. (or 3?) I went against tradition and STAYED until there were about 4 guests left. I went to a wedding when I was about 10 and asked WHY the bride and groom just LEFT their OWN party and I decided I would NEVER do that!! After we left, we drove to the hotel and partied with the out of town guests til 3 am....!! We had NO HONEYMOON except to go to an arcade and restaurant the next day. My "NEW" husband had finals or something at his LAST class in college. A year later we went to Niagra Falls for a weekend...close enough.

I also do NOT feel it necessary to marry again. I can't have anymore children and to ME, THAT is one of the main reasons people marry and to live together legally. I don't want to live with anyone and if I ever do, I hope its a big house. Well, not BIG just one with separate areas to get away when needed. I LIKE living alone. I don't mean for that to sound cold. When I love someone, I treasure them and love with a passion but I don't like to be smothered either.

Permalink Reply by crestofwaves on July 17, 2013 at 5:01pm

You now what? It depends on the day. Today--Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. And it's for simple reasons. For example, tonight I cooked. Usually my husband cleans the dishes when I cook. Last night I was the only woman on the block watering the flowers, so asked my husband to water the plants tonight instead of clean the kitchen because I had to wash the floor tonight, so I would do it all in one shot. Well, he put the "face" on and said ooooooooooookaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay. So then I suggested he clean the kitchen and wash the floor then. Well, he ran outside to play with his hose.

Some people are cut out for marriage. I don't think I am.

Permalink Reply by Wayne Goodwin on July 17, 2013 at 5:36pm

Only had two women in my life Lots of others i could have been with . Married the second one , lasted 10 years . Been single 30 years and i know i couldn't share my bed with no one but me . I like being able to sleep when i want , go as i want . I love looking at women and just wonder . Good enough for me . I went to Gaffney South Carolina and we got married with a Justice Of The Peace named W. R. Douglass . Cost 25 dollars ....

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