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Have you ever told a lie that REALLY saved your arse?

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Permalink Reply by TeeBubbaDee on November 3, 2013 at 7:06pm

Well, I don't know that it really saved my arse. But about a gazillion years ago, I somehow ended up with a "hickey" on my neck. I'm not spilling the details, but when the girl I was dating at the time saw it, I pretty much went all out, and blamed it on her. She apologized, and I've felt like a shit for the last 43 years.

Damn, I tell you guys stuff that I don't tell anybody else!!!!!!

Permalink Reply by CaliforniaNow on November 4, 2013 at 10:29am

Was the friend Don or Phil? (Everly)

Permalink Reply by flippr 2.0 on November 4, 2013 at 11:01am

Permalink Reply by Merry on November 4, 2013 at 2:47pm

YES. . . . .it was a very scarey situation. When they tell you not to go too far north into the lovely state of VT. There's a reason. Like a dueling banjos kind of reason. And well it was a hellish night. Didn't sleep a wink. Calmly asserting the whole time that I was deeply in love with the asshole that brought there and didn't engage in "group activities". They liked me and I managed somehow to talk them into taking me home in one piece. After they found the land line they had deliberately hid in the trailer around 10am the following morning. Knowing damn well that my trusty cell phone wouldn't work in their area. Never, ever again will I not go with the gut feeling and tell myself that I'm being stuck up in thinking that I'm dealing with hard core white trash.

Permalink Reply by flippr 2.0 on November 4, 2013 at 2:53pm

no,i'm not very good at it at all,i don't have the poker face needed for it.

Permalink Reply by Merry on November 4, 2013 at 2:59pm

Seriously, you'd develop one in a NY minute if you saw what these guys were like. I hate to say it but I didn't want to get beaten and so on so I pulled out my best game and got home untouched. YAY!

Permalink Reply by WS on November 4, 2013 at 9:28pm

Errr............ No?

Permalink Reply by The Dyslexic Dodger on November 4, 2013 at 10:43pm

yes. with strangers.

Permalink Reply by Merry on November 5, 2013 at 12:33am

I also talked the 14yr old neighbor out of raping me when I was about 8 yrs old. I never told my mom because I was afraid that she would yell at me about it. Thanks DD, it would have been much nicer never to have gotten into a stupid situation like that in the first place but the reality is that they can come out of nowhere.

Permalink Reply by Merry on November 5, 2013 at 1:08am

I was sitting in a quilting group once of about twenty women and I knew according to FBI statistics that at least 4 or 5 of us had been abused but of course the old taboos of these things we do not speak. Perhaps that's why the campaign to end domestic violence's slogan is Break the Silence. Tell the truth. Sit quietly and know it. I also think that once you have firmly established that someone is not only capable of harming you but getting away with it, you no longer owe them the truth. Especially if that's a way of escaping harm and protecting yourself. HUGS DD!

Permalink Reply by The Dyslexic Dodger on November 5, 2013 at 7:34am

We are everywhere. Be wel Merry.

Everyone

Please help children understand that they can talk to you abuot anything that makes them uneasy, ask any question of you without worry of being punished. Slow down.. notice if they become withdrawn or begin unexplained acting uot.

Compassoin and support to any adults who are sexual assult survivors.

Help put a end to suffering in silence.

love,

Suzan

Permalink Reply by TeeBubbaDee on November 5, 2013 at 10:07am

Here are just a few of the online petitions that are trying to put an end to child abuse.

http://www.change.org/petitions/stop-child-abuse

http://www.gopetition.com/petitions/stop-the-abuse-of-children.html