Is it true, do you think?

[T2Friends]

I just read the statement, "life is more fun when you have someone to share it with."  The article was talking about going on road trips with your BFFs (best friends forever), so the discussion doesn't have to be just about significant others, partners or spouses.  I spend a lot of time alone.  And sometimes, when I actually motivate myself to do things, I really enjoy myself, being by myself - I don't have to worry if someone else is bored or wants to leave, that kind of thing.  I only have to take my own feelings into consideration and therefore, truly relax and enjoy the experience, what ever that might be.   But then I also know that when I am experiencing those moments, I am also thinking, "gee wouldn't 'so and so' really enjoy this", or "gee, I wish _______ was here to see this".   So what do you think, is it more fund to have someone to share it with or not?  

[crestofwaves]

If I have to share with a female friend, sometimes I might choose alone because I don't have to worry if she likes what I am liking, etc. I just went to see Hundred Mile Journey and I didn't ask anyone to come with me and I had a nice evening.

However,  There are things I do with friends, but I don't need them to take a hike or walk on the beach or even go shopping . Usually I ask them just as a way of "tending" to the friendship. Like: " I haven't talked to so and so for a bit, let me ask her to  come out for lunch."

However, if I  share with my kids or my lover, things have more meaning--love has something about it.

However, sometimes trying to share with them is disappointing as well, and I think I'd have a better time if I were alone.

So, after thinking all this out aloud, I think we all want LOVE, the kind of love that makes us want to share the beauty of the world.  I have had this experience and LOVED it, but it's hard to come by.

I would not want to be alone all the time.  However, while I would probably cry if I were alone all the time, in my life I have never been alone for long--always family or kids or boyfriends or lovers or friends or colleagues or students or pets or some live thing, so I really don't have an answer. And I don't wish for the state of being alone because I want the people who are around me to stay around me.

However, whenever I was single between BFs and marriages, I always went places by myself, and sometimes I'd meet people and have nice conversations, and sometimes not, but I was not one to stay in the house because I was alone

Some people are very very very lucky that they get to live exactly the life that is in their heads. Is anybody here that lucky?

[crestofwaves]

And sometimes, it is nice to share with the strangers we meet on our journey.  I remember one time walking in the little woods by my house. I thought I saw a coyote. A man came along and I asked him if he thought it was a coyote, and we both stood there looking at the thing and talking about it, and it was a definite share in the excitement, but I didn't know the guy. Would it have had more meaning if I was with my husband and saw it? I don't think so. I came home and told him about it and that was good enough.

[T2Friends]

I agree Crest, sometimes doing things alone opens up opportunities to make new connections with strangers.  Not that it couldn't also happen if someone else was there...it might, or it might not.  I wouldn't want to be alone all the time, either.  Hanging with me family and pals are some of my favorite things too do.  But like you, I don't mind doing things by myself either. 

[Lifesighs]

I also like my own company and have been single for a long stretch, however when I go traveling I want a friend or friends along. I don't enjoy eating at nice places alone or seeing fantastic sights by myself. Before I ever married I had a good friend that loved to travel, we got along great and found we enjoyed doing the same things. Never worried in the least about her being bored or wanting to do something different because she would honestly tell me. I also had a sister in law that was great to travel with.

My husband was a good traveler until he hit his 83rd birthday, now he can't do it. We have nice beachfront restaurants here that we go to and take some short road trips. It works for now.

[P.A.]

I have been alone for eight years now. I do not enjoy it.

[Lifesighs]

danger, danger, danger  I was single for 8 years and was very vulnerable at about that point and because of that I made the worst mistake of my life in marrying someone when inside I knew I was making a mistake. Just be very careful with any relationships when you are not feeling at your happiest.

[uno,dos,3]

I travel to various parts of the country mostly to escape Wisconsin winters. My travels are almost always taken alone. I think what I love the best is not having to compromise on whatever I've chosen to do. In a committed relationship I might hear "but we went to Sedona last year, I really want to go -------------". Certainly each person's views must be considered when one is in a relationship. Alone, I always get to navigate. I gaze in wonder at many of the sights that nature provides never once feeling that my experience is diminished by not sharing the moment with another person.  I do invite others to join me for a week here or there. It seems I'm always initially happy about having a companion, but after a week I'm equally happy to once again be alone.  

I really enjoy being  the 'decider' when it comes to the events in my own life. 

[frenchy]

i think the best answer to this is WHO THAT PERSON IS  that you share that time with when you do things .. some can be a lotta fun and others not so much .. and then there's the ones that can take the air right out of the room .. i'm pretty good all by myself and pretty good with someone i like ..but not so good with the air removers tho.. 

[ProblemAgain]

i like that frenchy....great point...it is fun to be able to stand with someone to admire a sunset...a fuck of a lot less fun when you hear "this is too bright, it makes my eyes squint. are we done yet? "

[crestofwaves]

What y'all said...