Bitching , Grumbling

Permalink Reply by dwalt on July 30, 2013 at 10:29am

I think some people are just bitchy. Maybe it becomes a habit or maybe they are just a pessimist.

Permalink Reply by Lifesighs on July 30, 2013 at 12:49pm

Some people have crappy lives and don't know how to change it. Some like to blame everyone but themselves for their problems. Some are bitchy people.

Even happy people have something to bitch about once in a while.

Permalink Reply by crestofwaves on July 30, 2013 at 2:00pm

I used to bitch about my job every single day. Then someone who got sick of hearing it said to me, "If you are so unhappy, why don't you quit?" I examined why I was so unhappy. It had little to do with my job. I was unhappy in my marriage. I tried to be a good wife but felt criticized and felt as though I wasn't fulfilling my ex's expectations of what that meant. Too much pressure. We were just not suited to each other. Emily Dickinson has a poem: " She rose to His requirement...put away the playthings of her life to take the honorable work of woman and wife..." Ugh!

So, I think the root problem of people who bitch all the time is that they are inwardly unhappy , as I was.

I'm a lot better now and like is not easy==got a husband who is getting sicker every day and a daughter who now weighs 93 pounds because she is not eating again--went through this with here when she was young, she got better, and now, here she goes again. Anyway, one day I was grumbling at the computer at school doing some clerical task, and a teacher came in and said, "I love that you're back. You have such a positive energy." I responded that I was bitching at the computer. She said, "You don't even realize that you were singing."

If they only knew what was seething underneath! Nah. I really can deal with problems, and I have lots of them, because I am kind of happy within myself. Things are far from perfect, but I took a little control over myself and my life when I got out of my first marriage. I will never be a people pleaser again as God is my witness. What I do, I will do because I really want to--from the heart, and usually that is my choice now.

Permalink Reply by Wayne Goodwin on July 30, 2013 at 2:25pm

Well i posted something last week and a person bitched about the subject . So to keep the peace i deleted it . I guess that person is liking something in life that "he" of she needs to find . Good enough answer for me ...

Permalink Reply by ProblemAgain on July 30, 2013 at 9:08pm

actually wayne, the complaint was that it was about the 15th post dealing with the same subject and, as usual, you posted an opinion without any substantiation that you had formed from a demented opinion piece on some weirdo's blog...so your supposition that my life is 'liking' something is manure. you just don't like having to provide an evidentiary trail of facts to support your position on any matter...

Permalink Reply by Karin M Fichtner on July 30, 2013 at 10:28pm

You know, PA, you have to learn to be more assertive; your laid-back, casual "nothing-ever-bothers-me" attitude is just not working for you. ;-)

Permalink Reply by Karin M Fichtner on July 30, 2013 at 5:38pm

I think some people just always see the glass as half empty, and they aren't happy unless they're bitching about something. My ex inlaws fought day and night. Everything my father-in-law did pissed my mother-in-law off. She complained of him and to him every single day. Then he died. Then she complained day after day about how much she missed him. My question was.....why? Do you miss him because you now have no one to berate and argue with?

We've all got problems. Life is full of them. But it's got its moments of joy, as well. We have to take the bad with the good. Complaining doesn't help solve your problems, and only alienates you from the friends who could help you. But some people just don't get it. They have to spread the misery around .

I am sorry you have difficulties right now, Crest, but I think you have the right attitude, and you are tough enough to handle them. And you never complain. You are a strong woman. I admire you.

Permalink Reply by Merry on July 30, 2013 at 6:06pm

I got up on the wrong side of the bed this morning, too much coffee not enough water? The dust bunnies were closing in, the floors needed washing and all the stains in the carpet from my housemate, Jack the Dripper. We damaged the wall removing a microwave yesterday and the kitchen. OY. A nap is in order if I'm just miserable. A staycation would be for the next level and maybe some sustainable retail therapy. A walk through nature perhaps. Just something, one thing to go my way is all it takes to turn me around. And thank goodness , I found the one thing today otherwise my wonderful housemate would prob pack up and leave me in the dust. Perry, if you're out there, Pinterest saved my butt today. Peroxide and baking soda are magic on carpet stains. Just let it fizz and then mop up with a paper towel. I've been chasing the almighty dollar and in this economy sometimes it just isn't there to be found. Well I decided to make my home more comfy instead. If I'm going to be poor, I might as well be styling. That and a long nap straightened me out.

Permalink Reply by frenchy on July 30, 2013 at 7:25pm

yeah i can get bitchy sometimes too . but a good nap always helps ..

Permalink Reply by Snagg on July 30, 2013 at 10:27pm

EVERYBODY bitches from time to time. (Wayne, you're close to doing it yourself, just by starting this thread.)

Fortunately, relatively few people make bitching their mission in life. Those that do (and that we can't get away from), well....Maybe they're nature's way of toughening us all up a bit, and reminding us that into every life a little acid rain must fall. I help 'em if I can, I deal with 'em if I can't, and do my best to avoid the ones who really are just out to piss in everybody's corn flakes.

Permalink Reply by Wayne Goodwin on July 31, 2013 at 5:56am

True......

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