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Comment by bubbadave on July 18, 2009 at 8:39pm

first of all, i fell in love with her once. and i will again when she gets her 'shit together'. if that does not happen. then we will see. now, thank you for the input. one of the reasons i stay is because of my health. she has great insurance and a few other benefits.that make my life a little easier. my health is not good, and i am not out of school yet. the state is sending me back to school so i might get off of social security disability. after i graduate, who knows, i may split then. but until then, i guess i am living a selfish lie.

besides, who would saddle themselves with a man like me?

respectfully
dave

Comment by emilysghost on July 16, 2009 at 10:05pm

Dave,
If your wife is mentally sharp and refusing to work on the marriage I am curious as to why you stay in it or with her?

Comment by bubbadave on July 15, 2009 at 4:31pm

Oh yes, I remind her, but she is a nurse, she knows what to do. She also has fibromyalgia. Her memory is perfect, just ask her. I have never heard of 'fibro fog'. That is interesting; I am going to look it up and show her the documentation. I have been as supportive as I am able to. She just will not allow me to help most of the time because I don’t do things the way she does them-so I have to be wrong.

12 years ago, I know about depression, and supporting an ill wife. You see, I lost my last wife to cancer in 1997. I would read to her, I would help her go to the bathroom, I would clean up her vomit, and I got her some pot to help with all of the chemo side effects. And yes, I would hold her when she would cry.

You see, my wife refuses to see counseling, she refuses to converse about problems, and she refuses to acknowledge there is a problem. I went to counseling myself last fall for another reason and this was also one of the topic we discussed.

So, I go back to my first lover, my left hand.

Respectfully
Dave

Comment by emilysghost on July 14, 2009 at 4:09pm

Have you considered helping her remember her medications? (The nurse in me wonders) Also, has she been checked for fibromyalgia? There is something called "fibro fog" which might account for the forgetting. I know if I gained back that much weight I would be depressed.

Anyways, when things started going really badly in my marriages (and nothing I did to improve things including counseling helped) I finally decided to move on. If someone is sick that's a tough call and maybe not the best choice. Every situation is different. Have you tried negotiating?

Comment by bubbadave on July 14, 2009 at 3:17pm

ok, let me expand on my statement. first of all, i am not a bbm, i am just big. my wife is a bbw. she had bipass surgery several years ago and lost 140+ pounds. sense then, she has gained over 200 back. she has lost her desire for most of anything. she had a total hysterectomy that took out her desire for anything having to do with sex. she will occasionally, thats 1-3 times a year. big deal! i am only 53 and i still have desires, dreams, and i have seriously considered a fuck buddy or have an affair; but this is not in my nature.

she works nights and pretty much stays in bed the rest of the day. she has a small laptop computer so she is in contact with the world, and gets up to eat and rarely watch tv with me, as there is a tv in the bedroom..
she is a diabetic and arthritis in her ankles and knees, and that is one of her complaints. the doctor prescribed pain meds for the discomfort but she 'forgets' to take it. so she just complains and doesnt do much.

when we tried to have sex on saturday, that was a joke! i tried to get on top, very little pennatration, she get on top, she was just to heavy and couldnot get things lined up. with her knees in discomfort doggie style is out of the question.

i have always liked oral sex, both recieving and particularly giving. both of which my wife really doesnt care for now.

so, what am i to do? i have returned to my first lover-my left hand, a porn video and dreaming.

respectfully
dave

Comment by nobody on July 14, 2009 at 9:42am

I like BBW and I am not a BBM, is that okay?

Comment by Greg Guise on July 14, 2009 at 8:14am

I have a belly and the wife is overwieght as well, we have amazing sex because we love eachother. What was the question?

Comment by emilysghost on July 13, 2009 at 2:38pm

Gotta have a positive attitude and care about who you're with. If you are dwelling on shape instead of other things then that's part of the problem.

Comment by Greg Guise on July 13, 2009 at 2:32pm

Dave check out some "fetish" sites that cater to BBWs... you would not believe how big some of the folks are o n there, and how kinky they can get. All kidding aside it may give new light for your questions about how big is too big to fuck man.

Comment by Caroline Gutierrez Abreu on July 12, 2009 at 11:25pm

Well, Dave, it does take two to tango, and generally that means both spirits have to be willing, eh? The sexiest part of the human body is the part between the ears. Communicate, court and compromise. Sex isn't "dirty", it's good clean fun, and one of the perks of having a S/O. Keep your spirits up and flirt her up regularly.

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