GRACE LINDA'S POSTS FROM PAGE 10 or 11
"If that is the impression you got I am sorry. I merely wanted to know if anyone else had this experience on here. I am flattered that so many people have rushed to me side and offered me support, however, I know that if I wanted I could lay these people flat. I could easily do exactly what they have done to me without too much thought. I do not feel like a victim. If I was really disturbed take assertive action. At the present it is like having a fly in your house.
I have not taken part in trying to as you say create "a self perpetuated pedestal." I am actually humbled by the compliments. I only ever try to speak from my heart. A part of me is feeling somewhat remorseful that I opened this can of worms if it has caused further strive."
MY REFLECTION TO CATNIP...
You see community this is not just one person, Grace, who said she opened it to know if it happens to others and here is yet another. It is not about me, or her, or catnip, or the new member that posted a few pages back. It's about adult bullies. Not debate, not discuss, about people who verbally attack, try to intimidate and abuse the freedom of speech. It should not be a single persons problem when the bulling is taking place on the open pages of Ning, then it is a Ning issue. Why is it any different than any other issue?
I remember when this happened to Catnip, what a lovely person to have been attacked. Discussion is one thing, verbal beating up and little gangs is the issue. Not people defending people but those who gang up to humiliate or try to demoralize another. There are no excuses for such behavior in a social setting as this. So why does it happen and why do some accept it. It does not take a college education to know when people are being mean, or trying to cause harm to another. And no it is not that persons problem, it should be a community problem. When bullies bring their personal dislike of one person to the table and attack publicly, then it is no longer one persons problem. That is how I see it. How can their be peace if people are being singled out?
This is also not too unlike another question I put to a group about people on here that are scammer or players and whether or not they should be exposed. The general feed back i got was , "NO", that you ran the risk of people being accused of all sorts of things they didn't say or do, because someone has it out for them.
So, I suppose bullies, scammers and players are just apart of the TBD package.
OOPS, I forgot something. I believe that each person has to decide for themselves how to deal with these issues. The last time I was really upset I wrote a Blog and the person was dealt with by the monitors. I have seen other people doing this to.
I have read each and every page of this discussion. At first I was not going to reply. Have given some consideration to the matter and thought that I could not not reply.
It has been my experience, and that is all that I have to speak from, that when someone says insulting things to another it is to make them feel better about themselves, makes them feel that they can fit in" with whomever they are wanting to "fit in" with.
I reflect to a time in my childhood, when I was teased and picked on because I was "fat" It was awful and made me feel very bad...and it seemed that everyone went along with the "in crowd" I have been just as quilty of having a sharp tounge and in the long run it does not make me feel good about myself. I love the saying "When you point a finger at someone you have three pointing back at you"
I have seen a friend of mine slandered on the old TBD. It was not pretty and I for one never doubted she was who she said that she was, a kind gentle soul, sharing her incredible wisdom with others.
I joined a group on here...noticed how petty it was and had the choice to no longer be in that group.
I come here to support others not to cut them down...I believe we all need to be kind to one another and show no malice. That is just my opinion and as you see many people here have many different opinions. When someone says something hurtful to me, I try to say bless you and get on with my life. I have learned along the way in my earth walk that it does me no good to take anything personally and I just have to consider the source. HOpe all of you have a wonderful rest of the day filled with love and laughter