Insistent on being my friend

[Grace Linda]

Yes, I have been here and said this before, on the old TBD I got soooooooooooooooo much flack when I posted on my profile/page that I did not want to befriend MARRIED or IN Relationship and here I would add the "It's Complicated" gents.

I did not post that here and once again I am getting more friend invites from married dudes than from single ones.

I don't know about you guys but when someone asks me to be there friend I do the following.

Go to their page and see what their status is, look to see who else they are friends with and what groups they belong to.

The majority of times if they are married, they only have women as friends and are a member of at least one sex group. This is an instant turn off to me.

Hey I am sincerely not judging them, whatever floats their boat, but I know one thing. I believe in karma and I know that if I were married, I would not look kindly at my husband being on a "SOCIAL NETWORKING" site with only women as friends and talking up a storm about oral sex.

That is my reason why I Rarely become friends with involved men. Stuff always starts out all innocent. I just wanted to flirt, get feed back bla bla bla. I do not want to contribute to anyone else's unfaithfulness for that is what i consider it.

I would really like to know what Y'all get from making nice with all these women that aren't your chick? Do you get a special tingle down your spine to see the little pictures of all the women you have collected as "friends" I just don't get it.

Being involved with discussion is one thing, but actively seeking out women is in my opinion a bad sign.

[Alla]

Faye, ning added 'widow' status. You can change your status now if you want.

[Deb Hursa]

I agree with screening "friend" requests. I too look at friends, groups, etc. I still haven't found the relationship tab or the interests tab in order to insert my info. Just in case...I'm happily married and not looking for men seeking woman, just looking to share in ideas and learnings.

[Alendar]

I often befriend women on social networking sites and in real life, because they are more open and responsive. Men are cautious beasts with their words and are fearful of being thought effeminate if they are too expressive. In truth, I can't see what women see in men! They can be horribly cold fish.

[Richard]

It would be easy for one to lie and say they are single......nothing wrong with honesty....

[Faye Greener]

My status is "complicated" because I'm a widow. There's no option for that.
I've had many friends on other sites that were married and we had very nice conversations and exchanges, but I think that with all of the other clues that you mention....there is reason to be wary. It should be your choice who to befriend and why.