Feeling funky about TBD

[Lowell Brandon]

Lately, I've noticed myself feeling funky about TBD. Can't figure out why. Just a general funky feeling about TBD. No explanation comes to mind.

For example, I lurk in Chat day or night, but don't pasrticipate in chat. I just watch. I haven't been posting or reading posts for almost a week now. I kind of feel like I'm on the fringe, like I'm on the outside, looking in. Like I'm not being included. Like my family is going on vacation and I'm being left behind. Like I said, I have no clue whatsoever about what's going on here, but I might have some ideas.

I wonder if my funkiness is due to some of my favorite people not being on here or not participating as much as I would like. I wonder if the lack of 'phone calls from the only TBDer who ever called me has anything to do with it; we laughed the whole hour, and had a wondeful time. I wonder if it actually has nothing to do with TBD, but just spills onto to TBD. I wonder if the funkiness is related to the fact that whenever I try to get closeer to my friend, I have the feeling that it isn't going to happen. Maybe it's because projects for one of my clients are taking up some time that I could spend on TBD, not that I mind; she's also a friend.

Having said all this, I am NOT normally funky. My normal personality is upbeat and positive. I always try to stay positive. That's why this funkiness is so alarming, and I need to get to the bottom of it so I can deal with it.

Anyway, that's what's going on with me lately, and it's the reason I haven't been participatkng in posting or chat.

[Grace Linda]

I agree, it takes a lot more time to track down the action on here. If there is any action. I remember e-mailing friends back and forth on the old TBD, now it seems I am rarely on at the same time as anyone else. It's bizarre.

[Sarge!]

Lowell take three M&M's and if it don't do it for ya then just strike up some new conversations.

[Lowell Brandon]

Hi, Cheri!!! Thank you for posting here! Cheri, you are one of my all-time favorites on TBD. I see you in chat, having conversations all the time, but my funkiness makes it so I don't hit the "enter" key to join the conversation. Part of the reason I might not join in could be that the chat conversations (NOT referring to you here, just conversations in general) often relate to politics, guns, sports, etc, or topics that are beyond my limits, none of which I'm interested in. You're extremely intelligent, Cheri. I'm sure you can figure out what I'm talking about.

Now I want to thank all of those who took the time to post comments. Thank you! All of your comments are greatly appreciated, and they all seem to pretty much reflect my feelings at the moment. I know that there was a great deal of turmoil and soul-searching when the switchover occured, and I know that we lost many of our favorite people who refused to come here. My friend is one of those who chose not to come here (not the one who called me). There were many others who only came here because there was no alternative.

[Alendar]

I think whenever an interface between people changes, people get funky, edgy, icky. I've had a hard time adjusting, but I suspect its me and not the sight. I remember I had a rough time getting used to old TBD, too. The only difference was that I was new then and had no expectations. I'm letting go of my Ning expectations, and that seems to help.

Nothing is ever as good as the original, not to the original participants. This is true of anything. Adaptation is nature's little way of kicking sand in our face.

[JMcAul]

Hi Lowell,
I too have had difficulty connecting with others on this new TBD compared to the old one. For some reason it can seem less personal. I think it has to do with the layout and navigation. It takes me more time to find things (people, etc.) and somedays I just don't have the time to sit down and actively LOOK. You are not alone!