I met a really wonderful man.(I thought) He was attentive.Called me at least every other day.His job took him away for a few months at a time.We wrote each other every day.We talked on Skype too. About three months in the relationship he told me he had a 13 year old daughter.I was not thrilled my children are all grown and married with children. Then he started wanting me to pay for her dancing lessons and quite a few other items. I tried to exlplain I was not able to put out large sums of money.He told me if I couldn't help him with his daughters needs I didn't love him.I told him he was looking for a mother for her more than a woman for himself.He became quite angry and started swearing at me.I told him it was over.By this time I was a basket case.I really cared for him but I knew it was not going to work.Its been a while. I have cried a river at least.The other day he called and said if you send some money to show you love me we can pick up where we left off.It broke my heart again.I can't start up with him simply because I don't trust him anymore. The fact is I actually still care for him. How long does it take to stop hurting?
@ Dee.....I detest men that try and play women like that ..Dee.. I feel sorry that you are hurting from him because thats a very hurtful thing. Bottom line " He tried to play you" and played your emotions too which stinks big time !! He isn't worth your time !!! What a jerk!
Thank you for taking the time to reply . I appreciate it very much.I am getting over him.It is not easy to forget the good stuff. Its the bad things I have to keep reminding myself about.I am working on it.
It hurts but In your heart you know you need to do what you feel and what you know is right for you. . I remained friends with my first husband after 10 yrs of marriage and in fact he was best man at my second wedding. The second husband of 15 yrs and my third and most (definitely last) husband are good friends now . I left them both but they were both really good men, I wanted to keep them as friends and it worked so well for me.
Hang in there, time eases things . Hugs to you.
Thanks for your kind reply. It is getting better. I am hanging in as hard as I can.