The ones that got away....

[Grandma Helen]

Over the years we've all had people that we dated or had a relationship with that we either let go or they got away.  With all the social media and internet searches available how many have you found?  Have you considered contacting them or have they contacted you?  Do you think it's good that we can find them after a long time? 

[Julia A Knaake]

nope

if it was a happy parting we can keep the smiles on our faces

if it were unhappy I have no care as to what they are doing

[Leftygrl]

I have no desire to look-up/find people from past relationships.  And I do not have any "yearnings" or that old "might-have-been" scenarios.  I learned from my experiences and just moved forward! 

[Mickchick]

 I don't have any desire to stir up any old relatioships - they are in the past and, for me, that's where they belong.  But I have read about people who have reconnected with very happy results, and so what's right for me, as always, isn't necessarily right for everyone!

[Eaglewoman]

There is nothing in my past I want to renew, whats done is done.

[blithe spirit]

When I joined a social network, my movtivation was to reconnect with some folks I had lost touch with over the years. These were not  former dating interests but friends from high school, male and female. I have managed to find a few. I ended up connectiong with a group that repesents quite a few former classmates. Since then, I've attended some reunions and visited some other friends and we keep in touch. We had some unique experiences during our high school years that created a bond of sorts. It's added something to my life so I guess it's a good thing.

I have no interest in trying to rekindle a romance that died years ago. I've read stories about finding lost loves on the internet but noooo....not for me.

[Grandma Helen]

I've really enjoyed reconnecting with a couple of folks I knew way back before I was married. Some are female friends from high school and we have all enjoyed reconnecting and talking about our kids etc.  I also reconnected with two guys I liked early on.  One I've exchanged a few emails with and then nothing and the other has become a really good friend.  Neither were ever a serious romance, so it made it easy.  I guess when there's no baggage it's easier.  I recently found out a guy I was really crazy about in high school, who ran off with a friend of mine from high school the night of the senior prom, is now on his third marriage.  Guess I lucked out.  I just wish he had a photo on facebook.  He has a son that looks just like him.  Amazing what you can find on facebook. :) 

[carol machulski]

In 2002 I reconnected with 2 classmates at a reunion and then later another contacted me on a classmates internet site. We shared a trait of being teased by our classmates about our surnames. Unfortunately he took llf a few years after that and subsquently died last year. HS was not a good time for me and I have no contact with any of my former college classmates either eventhough I spent about 5 years as an active participant in the  alumni association. I don't miss them.  

[Karin M Fichtner]

When I was a high school girl, studying German, I had a tall, blonde jock in my German class that I had a huge crush on.  He was a year ahead of me, and he never paid the least bit of attention to me.  I finally found myself all alone with him in the hallway before a final exam, and he said something to me.  I don't even remember what.  I was so twitterpated, I had difficulty coming up with anything to say.  I mumbled something and then we got quiet again. 

He graduated that year.  I only saw him once after that, and he was out with a bunch of guys who had obviously been drinking.  He asked me to go for a ride, but considering the condition of the guys, and the fact that I would've been outnumbered.....I declined.

Flash forward to 2004.  I joined Classmates.com, and the very first person to contact me was him!  He admitted to having a huge crush on me in school, too.  We have become email buddies.  He was married 3 times, as was I.  But after he kicked his alcohol problem.....he got a doctorate in economics and was an assistant professor in Cincinatti, where he met wife #3, to whom he is still happily married.  He now lives in NYC, where until he retired two years ago, he worked for the S & P 500 on Wall Street.  He has an apartment in Manhattan, and is now dabbling in acting (he has done two off-Broadway plays).  He is a Navy vet who now works with the VA to assist veterans....especially Viet Nam vets.  And he is still handsome; his blonde hair is now silver....but he looks the same.  Now that I look at him.......It's eerie how much my first husband resembled him.   

I have no desire to revisit old loves, however.  Let sleeping dogs lie. 

[Suthinsoul]

I was recently contacted on Facebook by an old boyfriend.  He was the one I dated before I married my ex.  He's been single for a long time as well.  We've talked on the phone several times but he lives in Virginia now and I'm in Tennessee.  We didn't part ways because of an argument or anything bad, he was transferred to another facility and we ended up just drifting apart.  I always thought of him often.  He was an amazing man and very attentive.  I always thought of him as the "one who got away" and always wondered what my life would have been like if we had been able to stay together.  He's told me that he does that too.  So far we haven't made any plans to reunite because he has an adopted 7 year old boy and has responsibilities to him.  I would really love to see him again and hope that someday I will.

[Grandma Helen]

Wow Suthin, that's great  I did contact an old boyfriend from high school about six years ago.  We are great friends now.  It wasn't ever anything serious, which is one reason we'll just be friends, but the other is he's married.  I see him a couple of times a year and his wife thinks it's great.  She went to the same high school I did, but didn't know either of us.  I did just recently find another old boyfriend on Facebook, but I'm trying to decide if I want to contact him.  Seems he's on wife number three.  His first wife was the one he snagged from another guy that we doubled dated on the junior prom for.  My "friend" was the other guy in the group   We got along, but it just didn't last long but ended kind of ok.  I have to email my friend and see what he thinks  The Philanderer his first wife is in pictures on facebook, so we could  put theoghter quite a group for a reuniion  I have to think this through.  I know somehwere in this mess he has a second wife.  You could really have quite a load of info on folks with the internet and it's getting better every year  Good bless america.   Helen

[Suthinsoul]

I loved it that HE looked me up.  I was so surprised that he remembered me to the point that he pursued trying to find me.  I must have made an impression on him...LOL!  I always remembered him...good memories...I have pictures of us that make me smile and I sent him copies.  We were crazy together and I wonder what it would be like now that we've gotten older.  He's still good looking.  He had a headfull of curly black hair and still does cept some gray speckels it now...and sparkling green eyes.  He adopted a little boy from Cambodia and they seem to just idolize each other.  Only time will tell what will happen I guess.  The affection I had for him came back the minute I saw his name, so who knows.

[Grandma Helen]

Suthin, just stay in contact with him.  Only time will tell where it goes.  I'm happy for you.