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luvy that was truly funny...
I love stories about families
My mother in law, Teresa....what can I say? She is a sweet funny lady of 82 years. We have been close for almost two decades and she is over to our house once a month so that I can give her her injections. She and my wife, Julieta, are extremely close and they chatter on the phone at least 2 or 3 times EVERY day and if Julie isn't home I chatter with her.
Well, Teresa is 82 years old and one would expect that, at that age, life's little aches and pains would bug you from time to time. She came to visit us a month and a half ago and stayed. No problem.....I love having her around and she was very ill. She had extreme weakness and could hardly walk because she was so dizzy. The local doctors said that it was gastric distress and if treated vigorously would go away.
It didn't go away so a couple of days ago I had Julie and our youngest son take her to the hospital for thorough testing. She had to stay, of course, because some of the tests are complicated.
Yesterday, at home, Julieta received a call from the hospital. Teresa has pancreatic cancer. It is metastatic and her mother will die soon. Julie cried non stop for 3 hours and I felt very sick to my stomach. Neither of us could sleep last night and we went to the hospital today to see her.
Julie had not asked the doctors anything yesterday about Teresa's prognosis. I sure did....today. She doesn't have much time. We shall care for at our house until she passes. I am qualified to care for her as I was a licensed paramedic years ago.
This is not the first time I have cared for the terminally ill. I treated my wife, Carol Jean, for many months before she died and was there for her in her last minutes.
I wonder if many know what this rips out of your soul?
I certainly do not know about what this does to rip out of your soul.
I worked in nursing homes many years and very few left to go back home.
I was close to some of the residents but not at all like you are with this in your home.
You are a very wonderful son in law and husband to be caring for those that you love.
I know you and Julieta will make Teresa's last days peaceful and as comfortable as you can.
Thanks, guys, for your kind support. I have observed that we all have more grit inside of us than we suspect. Strength seems to come when we have no options.
Thank you P J and Lovy.....she died yesterday
Scott, I am sorry for you, Julieta and the family's loss.
I am also so glad you were a good son-in-law helping her in the last days of her life.
Yes, Julia, Julie and I had a vela for mama at the Catholic Church in Golfito tonight. A vela is a Costa Rican wake because the Ticos don't like funerals. They want to get together in a huge group and talk about it. Half of the pueblo showed up. Mama looked so serene. I took it for 6 hours and called a cab to take me back to Rio Claro. I had had no sleep for 2 days, was stressed out of my mind and my shoes did not fit so I was starting to stagger.
It is sad when a loved one passes away
the memories of them linger for a long while
even going into years
Mama had a lot of friends at the vela
because she lived a long life and friends wanted to
comfort Julie and you with respect for Mama
you did a lot so now it was right for you to go after 6 hours
am hoping Julie and family are finally getting their rest also
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