Personal Loans

[Wayne Goodwin]

I know most people have given someone a personal loan to help then out . Some pay you back some  don't . Have you ever forgave a loan , knowing well you won't be paid back ?

Even if you did , do you ever really forget ?

[Snagg]

Here's a relevant question: What about when you do someone a solid, preventing disaster or misfortune from occurring to them in the future - not by loaning them money, but by taking action (or refusing to take action) that prevents something bad from happening to them ? But they absolutely refuse to see what you did, ignoring all available evidence, even from experts, that you saved their asses - And then never fail to remind YOU of that hundred dollars they loaned you (even though you paid it all back), as a way of reminding you how wonderful and generous they believe themselves to be?

Asking for a friend.

[Snagg]

*sigh*....If only it were that easy....

[crestofwaves]

I think one cannot do things for people and expect anything in return.  Expectations are built in disappointments, so I have few.

[frenchy]

yup .. if you expect somethin from someone that wasn't promised upfront then thats your own fault .. he who expects nothing is never disappointed .. i think that was confucious who said that .. and i agree.. 

[Wayne Goodwin]

Well during the year of 2007 & 2008 i received my pension from last place i worked . It totaled 26,000 dollars after taxes . I gave my Daughter 2000 dollars to buy some nice clothes for her and the kids . I was living with her at the time . During the next year . Her husband wouldn't (separated) pay any support . My Daughter had kids in daycare and trying to work . I had to chip in to daycare and help buy grocers for the grand kids . My Daughter all the time said she would pay me back with tax money . I guess deep in my mind it was a gift but there always was a chance she may pay me back . It totaled up to around 10,000 dollars . Now i know her husband talked her into not paying me . They really used me or i let myself be used . One Saturday morning early they pack up every thing plus a lot of my stuff . Even spoons and forks . I never heard anything . I finally got up and was going to bathroom and there was nothing in living room , kids bedroom . I looked out the back door and saw then pull out of driveway . I have learned it is easy to be a fool concerning kids . It took me a couple years to get over that and the way it happened . I can forgive but i can't forget .....

[Wayne Goodwin]

It took me a year before i learned they were living 6 miles from me . She took the money she owed me and paid rent for one year in advance .