New epidemic—Failure to grow up

[Vernon Windsor]

Bullies, vipers, haters, tattlers, whiners, passive-aggressives, and many more. Why is it that some adults find it close to impossible to grow up? Now I'm all about maintaining your inner child, holding on to your sense of wonder, and retaining (and enhancing) your ability to play. That's not what I'm referring to here.

I'm talking about people calling each other names because they are online and no one can reach over and give them a good dope slap. I'm talking about people who, faced with a dispute with another person, choose to "go to war" in public, rather than trying to either work things out privately or simply quitting the fight. I'm talking about people who are so insecure in their beliefs and values, that instead of making their case with facts, logic, or honest emotional response, choose instead to vilify their opposition with all the maturity of a two-year-old in need of a nap.

Somebody needs to do a study to find out what's going wrong here. Any masters or PhD candidates out there want to take this on? What's with these people? Can we figure out how to stop producing people like this? I'm tired of them.

[caseyjo]

I was thinking about what BAF said...I know a person who is raising her grand kids...Those boys have never had to lift a finger to do anything except make their own beds and take out the trash..Both boys have been diagnosed with mental disorders. They seemed normal enough when they were little, but I used to say..."Watch" I will call the lady Jane..."Jane is going to spoil those kids into mental instability"..One of the boys gets a check from the state now and I am sure she is working on getting the other one money also. He just started college and she takes him..she says he can't make it by himself on the bus.....Told ya so..It is many times the parenting that causes the mental problems..But they will always say the kids were born that way..Some are, but some are made that way by over protective parents and grandparents raising grand kids who over compensate for making mistakes raising their own kids.....Jane would go to the corner everyday after school to walk those boys home...I used to ask her if she might be a little over protective, but you have to be careful what you say to people about their families and how they choose to raise them.

[Quinn]

I suspect they feel protected by the anonymity of the internet. It appears that people are forgetting how to be civil. Disrespect, racism, ignorance, degradation and a lack of common courtesy are becoming the norm here.
I also wonder sometimes…if they are this abrasive in real life perhaps that’s why they are attracted to the internet—it’s the only outlet they have since most horrid behavior like I’ve seen here would not be tolerated in real life…

[caseyjo]

I am guilty of the above behavior from time to time..I do fly off the handle and then apologize later. I know I can be immature and plain out silly. I think I have learned not to call names or to take my dirty laundry out in public..I am fairly new to blogging and got caught up in something when I was only a a few months into TBD. My first experience here was on a religious topic and then controversy on personalities which got way overblown. My first experience with TBD and blogging was it was a fight and a contest.

When a person experiences a life where they have had to fight their way through to stay alive, life is seen through different colored glasses...Best to not judge lest you can walk a mile in their moccasins..some people on here are victims of childhood and young adulthood atrocities beyond the imagination of others who have led comfortable lives as children and adults. Some have found the love of another or others to pull them through..others are still fighting....I think love can bring people around....easy does it.