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I am alright now. No more drunken tantrums from my boyfriend who will become a x boyfriend if he doesn't try something different. I cant handle alcohol either, that's why I have not had a drink in 8 years. I don't miss it at all.

I used to go to AA, but because of my lack of spirituality I don't go anymore. The organization teaches a person has to have a higher power to stay sober and if they don't they are on a dry drunk or something of that nature. They believe a very few have done it without AA & God, and they must have had spiritual help to do it. I cant deny there are very good things about AA. I really liked the personal inventory part. Fear is such a motivator for unwise decisions. Alcoholism is a symptom of deeper problems which should be looked at and AA is a great place to start.

I guess I am writing this because for some people out there AA is not a option because of the God thing, but I am here to say you can learn to use the educational parts of the program without a belief in God. Once you get the tools you need...move on. There are many people who get sober without AA, but you wont hear about them in AA...They are not in their statistics, but we are here........... If anyone needs to talk to me....I'm here....looking out for the people who will not step foot into a AA meeting or people who will not go back, or people who are going, but having a very rough time. I don't know if I can help, but I can be a friend. We are neither perfect or flawed...OR...we are both perfect and flawed. Bottom Line....we are just human and we are all different....Hugs...K

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Comment by JMcAul on August 18, 2009 at 7:12pm
Pick up those tools girl! Sober since 1982.
Comment by caseyjo on August 18, 2009 at 5:40pm
Hi lady glitter.......We were talking about alanon meetings for people like me who have been sober for a long time,( 8 years for me ) who live with practicing alcoholics. Me and a lady i met on a delta flight used to go to Alanon together, but she got upset and I dont think she wanted to go back to said meeting where a over zealous leader got carried away. I think my friend took it personal.

I can go back to either AA or Alanon meetings if I want, but think I would rather go to alanon....As far as principals before personalities goes....There are principals to follow of any 12 step program which help guide us through the program. Personalities ( on the other hand) can divide us and make us angry and unhappy sometimes....

Better to stick with principals than obsess on personalities that can set us to relapse back into old ways of thinking. It is a state of mind really, a thought alongside helpful hints that keep us centered. Thanks so much for your well wishes. My heart feels so good to have caring friends here on TBD..
Comment by caseyjo on August 18, 2009 at 2:55pm
oops.......Long enough to know....principals before personalities.
Comment by caseyjo on August 18, 2009 at 2:53pm
Actually, there is a meeting near my house, I have been there. The people are very nice and the lady leading was a excellent leader. I was going with a friend I met on a delta flight who just happened to live close to me. When she stopped going because a over zealous leader ( not the same leader who was usually there) went on a rampage, I stopped going to. I can go back without her. I havn't heard from my friend for some time, so I dont expect I will, but I have been around the other program long enough to know...
Comment by JMcAul on August 18, 2009 at 12:25pm
Caseyjo, I mean help for you first. You are carrying a load you were never meant to carry. I highly recommend Al-Anon for you, just to help you get some clarity and sanity (because the alcolohic, as you have so eloquently shown in your post, brings mostly in-sanity.) They have meetings everywhere and many a person who is involved with an alcolohic has found friends who understand, support and a path to follow. some leave the alcoholic relationship, others don't, it is up to you. There are no rules. It is also free, and if you call their local hotline, you will have no trouble finding a sincere person who understands and is willing to give you a ride. Best wishes and please let me know if you decide to check into it.
Comment by caseyjo on August 18, 2009 at 10:17am
You would think so, but when a person isn't in the best health it gets much harder to get help. Many programs that help insist you be able to get around by yourself. Now days with the economy being so bad many programs which help the poor have shut down. I don't drive, and long trips by bus aren't feasible in my condition. I don't know where the help is...When I came to Florida fleeing another bad relationship 14 years ago I had a infection on my leg from a spider bite. I had no money at the time and I had to walk on that disintegrating leg to try to find help . I finally got help from a clinic, but no free meds. I got a 10 dollar prescription for antibiotics, but with no money to get them I thought I would die.

I have come a long way since those days, but leaving my rental home which I love with friends around me who do help me to the store or medical appointments from time to time when my friend is too drunk to do it, at least I manage...signed....inbetween a rock and a hard place. Thank-you so much for your response. If any help is out there I would certainly like to know where it is......Hugs.....K
Comment by JMcAul on August 18, 2009 at 7:40am
There's no reason to put up with this. There is help.



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