WHAT'S ON MY MIND
I've chosen to use this space to express how I feel about some things. I'd like to hear what you think. NOTE: You don't have to agree with me... We can "agree to disagree" and leave it at that, but I am interested to hear your thoughts on the subject. So, please feel free to send me a message (please keep it civil...there's no need to be nasty)...
I've been getting burned out from trying to get to know people online.
I mean, I'm here to make some friends...not just contacts that are called "FRIENDS" ...but "real" friends. I would like to meet some genuine and sincere people who are interested in building friendships.
In fact, I've been hoping to meet some "real" people for a long time now ...and... I have profile pages on various other social networking websites to prove it. I feel like all of my efforts have been in vain. I don't know how strange that makes me sound, but let me reassure you that I'm not one of those guys/people that you need to be apprehensive of.
Actually, I'm probably one of the most sincere/genuine guys/people that you'll ever meet. In fact, if anything...I'm probably too sincere.
I have been told that I sometimes come on too strong and that most people don't know how to take me. Of course that's coming from people who are obviously not comfortable opening up and being themselves. I think people are so used to putting up a wall to defend themselves from being taken advantage of that they are afraid to...or perhaps don't know how to...let down their guards. I think people are quick to assume the worst nowadays and that they are automatically suspicious of everyone. In turn, most people suspect that I'm too good to be true and that I'm probably up to something and have some ulterior motives or hidden agendas.
Remember how people used to wave and say hello to each other, even strangers... and they'd wave and say hello back... Well, that certianly isn't the case nowadays...Not with all of the scary people out there in the world. People will give you a dirty look if you wave or say hello to them anymore.
Why?... Because they're probably wondering... "What do they want?" ...Because no-one trusts anyone anymore. Hey, I understand that the world has changed and that you can't trust people like you used to be able to. I'm not nieve...I get it, but I also think it's a shame and I don't think it has to be like that all the time. I believe that a stranger is a friend we haven't met yet. I know that probably sounds corny and perhaps even ignorant to say, but consider this...
We have all been the "stranger" at one point or another in our lives (many times for most, at various times in our lives) and we all want to be accepted. In fact, even our parents were strangers before they took a leap of faith and made the effort to reach out and get to know each other.
Granted, some strangers can't and shouldn't be trusted, but most of those situations can be resolved by using a little "common sense". I'm not suggesting that we just hand over the keys to our houses and cars whenever we met a someone for the first time...No way, not at all.
I definitely think that we have to play it safe and be cautious when approaching anyone until we have the chance to get to know them better, but I also think that people have gone too far to the opposite extreme and have become anti-social and self-centered and many of them have become so afraid to the point of becoming too paranoid to trust anyone.
We have become so defensive of the possibility of someone taking advantage of us that we have allowed our fears to hold us hostage. Some are so afraid that they are trapped, prisoners of their own fears. It's sad...when we allow ourselves to be controlled by the unknown. It limits our ability to enjoy our lives.
I'm tired to trying to reach out to people...I'm tired of feeling like I'm the only sincere person left online. I would like to believe that there are still genuinely sincere people left out there.
I hope you're not one of those people who are quick to judge a book by it's cover. I hope you'll take the time to open it up and read the story...or in other words...take the time to go check out my profile and reach out and get to know me better.
There is a lot more information about me on my MySpace page... http://www.myspace.com/hondomurray
You can also find me on Facebook too.
Feel free to ask me anything you'd like to know more about. Like I said... I'm an open book, and I have nothing to hide.
Looking forward to hearing from you
PS: I almost forgot to mention... That I have unlimited text messaging and free long distance too. So, I'd be happy to talk to you offline as well if you'd like to text me or talk in person. Just let me know if you're interested and I'll give you my number. NOTE: For those of you who are concerned about giving out your phone numbers... All all you have to do is dial... *67 ...before you dial the area code and it will block me from being able to see who's calling. It just shows up as... "RESTRICTED" ...or... "UNAVAILABLE" ...Although, I'd be happy to call you so you won't have to pay the long distance charges; if you're not uneasy about sharing your number. Either way... Online or offline... Looking forward to hearing from you