Children and divorce

[no1toolmkr]

Big topic huh, recently I've divorced my wife of 10 years. long story really, however the true victims of divorce is most always the adolescent children. one parent being a custodial parent and the other forced to contribute funds to help raise them, usually a pretty fair amount.

many times the non-custodial parent loses much of the creative and healthy interpersonal relationship much needed by both parent and child. For this I've found a wonderful solution. Well as well as you can apply it anyways. unless your talking about infants children are most profoundly efficient with new age electronic devices such as cell phones, even as young as 8 yrs old. Cell phones can do almost anything today for us. Including take video and photo's of our children, games which of course they love and will hold dearly the cell phones with them on them, text, chat and of course as a phone so you can talk to your children. 

furthermore it's symbolically just wrong and a swift contempt of court if the custodial parent interferes with contact and conversation with the children by the phone. it's really and actually enforceable that the custodial parent can not use the phone for their own influence say take it away as discipline or something. I've come to a vivid conclusion that this should be known. There are a lot of disparate children just longing for more and better contact with their dislocated parents. 

And it's been to my great discovery to be a wonderful idea that has helped me to not just continue but sincerely have a better relationship with my children than when I lived in the house with them as its not interfered with by someone I really don't get along with any longer.

So I'm urging anyone out there with adolescent children and they're struggling to maintain a really healthy relationship with they're children. Buy em a cell phone. Add a line to your own account. Do whatever you have to do to gain this level of contact with your adolescent children. 

I has really helped us that MUCH...

 

[Bob Stepp]

Well Sir, thankfully I've never been in your position and I do sympathize with you, but in my opinion no eight year old should be allowed to carry a cell phone, no matter what the situation.

[no1toolmkr]

Wow, guess I wasn't expecting that.
Its worked wonders for us. In this case my ex was determined to control every relationship in the house.
Must be a woman thing I guess. The phone has actually allowed me to have a relationship with my boys and its not a terribly big expense. Leaves me free to completely ignore the mother and live a peaceful life for once.
Meanwhile the boys are happier because I go get them at every opportunity. Can contact me anytime they need me.
And there's no more conflict with they're mother because she can be left out of the equation.
They're free to have whatever relationship with her they want, I'll not interfere, however I'm sick and tired of her dictating my relationship with the boys and the phone has been the most instrumental tool to avoid conflict.
Its actually been pretty peaceful other than her contempt when she dared to interfere with it.
Made me feel good that I've got a direct line with my boys and she gets threatened with jail should she interfere again.
Gotta love it. If anyone is having similar issues I highly recomend it.

[no1toolmkr]

Lol

[d's girl]

Must be a woman thing I guess.

 

What? Are you serious?

My response to that comment is: No.

[no1toolmkr]

no it's not, how bout we switch that for a human thing...

there are indeed many overbearing men out there. I'm not one of them.

However I'm absolutely delighted to have gotten away and have improved on the relationship with my boys.

[no1toolmkr]

really....

[CWO3ROBBIE]

Ahh, #1. See you haven't lost your touch. (:>)

[no1toolmkr]

not at all....

 

[no1toolmkr]

best way I've found to circumvent an overbearing control freak.

get out of the marriage and give the kids a cell phone...

I'm feeling much better these days and I've got a much better relationship with my boys than I ever had while living in the same house with the ex spouse...

 

[Aggie]

My former wife had cell phones for the kids but forgot to pay the bill on the cell phone much of the time.  Many times she let the kids do other things to be out of town on my weekends.  But she did always say you can take the dog with you.