Career

[Wayne Goodwin]

When you entered the Work Force . What or who inspired to succeed to begin a Career ?

Did you Keep that Career or decide to go in another Direction ?

 

Do you feel you Succeeded ?

[blithe spirit]

It is a reference to the developmental psychology theories taught by Sigmund Freud. Freud's term was "anal retentive" which he applied to people who were fixated on orderliness, stubbornness, and a compulsion for control. He theorized these characteristics were symptomatic of some kind of psychological trauma associated with the persons' potty training as a young child. 

[Kim]

Uno, Dos 3....I was tending to my "difficult", ANAL husband....LOL!!

Wayne...old people arent the cute little old ladies and men that people make them out to be. They are REALLY obscessive complulsive and stubborn which is sort of another name for Anal, I guess. They are SET in their ways. If it "worked" for 50 years, it should work for 50 more. They dont want to part with a dollar even if you offer to get something "better". They don't want a better one, they want THEIRS!! The "ONE" they have had since 1975!! But I am able to kind of overlook alot of the nonsense, treat them with respect  and consider that whatever they are holding onto, either literally or figuratively is sometimes one of the ONLY things they CAN hold on to. They have very little control over their daily lives once someone like ME comes in to help them. Some people simply DONT want us caregivers there and they are only TOLERATING us because their family sent us in. Some of them are REALLY hoping we will get fed up and leave. I used to go to this one lady's house 3 days a week for a few hours to clean her house or food shop. Extra time and I would sit and watch TV with her. Other agencies went in to help her with meals, etc. and I would be coming in and the caregiver "of the day" would be STORMING OUT and muttering something nasty under their breath. SHe exhausted EVERY caregiver within 3 agencies. Some black woman got in my face as she was leaving and she said, "You been wit her for a YEAR?! GIRL, you crazy...how u put up wit that lunatic? Tell me, HOW?!" I said, "Well...however she acts or what she says, it is NOT about ME! Its not about YOU. She doesnt want any of us HERE so she is going to tear down whoever comes in that door next. She is angry, she is in pain, and she is out of independance and no longer making choices. She knows where everything has always belonged and here WE are...we walk in and tell her it should go SOMEWHERE ELSE. She has no privacy. How would YOU feel if some stranger took over YOUR House, YOUR Life, and IN SOME cases, YOUR body?"

[uno,dos,3]

"She knows where everything has always belonged and here WE are...we walk in and tell her it should go SOMEWHERE ELSE. She has no privacy. How would YOU feel if some stranger took over YOUR House, YOUR Life, and IN SOME cases, YOUR body?"

Sounds a lot like marriage to me

[dwalt]

Having never worked  with the public I have to admire people that do.  Just from what I see in stores and such I would starve if I had to work with them.

[Kim]

Dwalt...I often think how infuriating it must be to be a waitress, at times, especially in a restaurant that serves steak. I have heard of many incidents and have been with a few people who YELL at the waitress because it wasnt done to their PERFECT specifications. On the other hand, I'm usually generous with a waitress who keeps her cool and stays on top of things. I always tip the minimum but more often than not, I overtip because I usually get good service. COULD be because i giver THEM the respect I expect...

[dwalt]

I always tip well.  If I get crrappy service I still tip, then just mention to the manager how they might "improve" in a kind way.  I am never rude (WELL i was to my now ex when i found out he was cheating) but that's another story.