Marriage / Divorce

[Wayne Goodwin]

Some of us been married once . Some several times .

When you Got Married , How long did it take to feel you F--Ked up or knew it was going downhill toward Divorce ?

On the other hand is every thing right ?

Do you feel you've done your best to keep your Marriage alive ?

[crestofwaves]

PS:  Mark Sanford, the former Gov of SC who went on the Appalachian Trail to find his "soul mate" now has her.  I wonder if she's still his soul mate and will be forever.

I never judged him because it's got to be hard to be stuck in a marriage and in love with someone else. And he was so open about, he kind of tore at my heart strings, unlike John Edwards who is just unlikeable.

OK. Gotta go to work.  Thirty some more days and then NEVER AGAIN!!!!1

[frenchy]

uhh last nite i was still up cresty... but sometimes i'm just gettin up .. wish i could get a handle on it but somehow that evades me .. the nite before last i stayed up till dawn and did a bunch of cookin .. i was in the mood .. made some eggplant parmajahn and even made an eggplant alfredo too, made my own sauce .. made my own blue cheese dressin.. and made some pork chops with brocoli and onions and then last but not least made some italian dressing too .. the whole time i'm thinkin gee it would be nice to have some music in this kitchen so i went out yesterday and got a little cd player radio boom box thingy ( its more cd player and less boom but for my little one butt kitchen it's gonna be fine .. today i need a bracket so i can put it on its own shelf so it won't take up too much counter space cause when i cook i need it all .. and then some too .. so that solves a problem .. i used to just turn on my stereo but that could get kinda loud and if my girlfriend has to work the next day that could knock her outta bed so now i can make a little bit of noise in the kitchen but keep the peace in the rest of the house ..

and yeah , don't we all want that type of marriage ??i think if we all did get it there wouldn't be all that much divorce .. i'm still optimistic .. but i'm not holdin my breath.. tryin my best to live within the now .. play the hand i'm dealt no matter what the cards are ..  

[Mickchick]

I've been married twice.  They both ended in divorce, the first after 15 years, the second after 5, though I remarried the second one days after the divorce because by that time I had realized that his personality had changed due to his illness (he was dying from Hepatitis) and not because he was drinking too much.  If I could have gotten him on my insurance policy again without going through with the divorce I would have, but I couldn't, so ... two divorces, three marriages instead of one divorce and 2 marriages. 

I was in counseling with the first during the first year of our marriage.  I knew then it probably wasn't going to work, but I'm no quitter.  I married him thinking we would grow old together and be together until one of us died.  We went to counseling 4 times - first time I went by myself for a while trying to deal with the anger I had about how he treated me, the second,third, and fourth it was marriage counseling for both of us.  Obviously, it didn't take!

Once my second husband was diagnosed and on the right meds to straighten him out, he was the same wonderful man I had married all over again, and we were married until death did us part about a year later.  I just jumped the gun because I was determined not to stay with someone who was verbally and emotionally abusive again for as long as I did with the first one. 

[Karin M Fichtner]

My mom and dad were married 57 years when they died....15 days apart. My father worshipped the ground she walked on.....and she wasn't always easy to live with. She was what we used to call in those days..."high strung". I am not sure, but she displayed the symptoms of someone who had been molested as a girl. I am reasonably sure my poor dad didn't have the world's best sex life. But they had a wonderful bond. They went everywhere and did everything together. They walked hand-in-hand, played, traveled, danced....and there were plenty of "PDA's" in our house. They showed us what a good marriage should be. Alas, I didn't have the same luck. Actually, luck had nothing to do with it. I have a strong attraction for men who are just a little wild and crazy. They make great pets, but don't "housebreak" well. Two were cheats; all had problems keeping a job. They were unable to be part of a team; I was never allowed in too close. I didn't know the father of my children one bit better after 15 years than I knew in the beginning. I was just expected to maintain the home front.....while they did whatever they wanted. You think I'd have learned after a while. It's just that boring men don't interest me. It's that little rebellious streak in them that peaks my interest. Stupid woman! Well....now that I know that about me......I would never marry again. But.....I do believe in happy ever after.....for others. I have a best friend who took four times to get it right, but she is celebrating 25 years on Memorial Day weekend, and they are still inseparable and sickeningly romantic. She says he still "does it" for her. Lucky lady.