Who are the people who have made a major impression on your thoughts or life?
I am thinking today of a friend from online who passed several years ago. Her sn was W1nterSolstice, a beautiful, but fragile soul. She had a passion for photography which soon got me and another lady in our group hooked to the hobby. She made a profound impact on me because of her grace and gentleness, but also because of her imperfections and human frailty. I remember being startled the first time I met her in person with other group members from the Ramblers. She was much older than she led us to believe online. It took a few minutes for my mind to adjust to her physical reality to match my mental one. Others in our group have criticized her because of that deception, I tried to withhold judgment, but I too was uncomfortable with her deception and it was pity that made me less rigid with judging her. She had just gotten a divorce and was having difficulty adjusting to the changes and her husband's betrayal and was moving around a lot. To combat her misery, she traveled a lot, participated with all of us in chatroom activities and email postings to the degree it took up most of her life as it did mine at one point. She did have wonderful insights and was a great poet. She was also charming and fun to be with in real life. It was her vulnerability that made me more aware of my own human frailty--the need to escape into myself in cyberspace. She made me more sensitive to what drives people to dishonesty sometimes and to understand better the shades of gray in our lives. Since I prefer my moral boundaries to be delineated in black and white, I struggle with dealing with the gray areas in life. She helped me learn to acknowledge the gray areas and be less judgmental.
"I like flawed characters because somewhere in them i
see more of the truth." -- Nicholas Cage