C Raine Zima's Comments

How are things in your world?

founding member of TBD
now you have time to not be single!

Howdy and welcome!

Check out my group: Aggie, Longhorns and everything Texas

A group for all Texans and those who would to rather be in Texas.

Laugh, of the many things I may be, dangerous is not one of them (unless that's a plus) Actually I don't mean to be mysterious either, what would you like to know?

Thanks for becoming my new friend! Tell me more about yourself. How old are you? I am 56 and have 3 grown children and 2 grandchildren....15 & 4. My oldest
daughter has MS and her daughter has Bipolar. Right now they are staying with us and I am caring for them, until they find a home to rent. Then my Son will take over the caregiving. I have been married 24 years (2nd marriage). Now, it's your turn......hope to hear back from you. Your friend, Donna

Great photo!

Aggie hug!

You are a very beautiful lady. It would be an honor to your friend. would you? LOVE

Hi. Again thank for your messages. I was looking over your profile and read you are into art. Plus I noticed with have other common interest. If it is ok I would like to add you as a friend. I would love to be able to talk with you and to make a new friend. I am posting on of my paintings with this comment. After you see this painting I am sure you will want to know it history. Please feel free to ask. Dave

Hey Raine,

You're right it is hard to walk away. We're able to keep things calm around here for the most part. I need to be here for the kids. I almost left a couple of years ago. Was packing up to walk out. The kids, especially the youngest one begged me to stay. I won't go into details here, but at that time, even my W's parents were fed up with her. I need to be here for stability if nothing else.

Hope you have a great 4th. Talk to you soon.

Wow, you have been through a lot. I do understand what you mean about the shock that can even come from an expected death. I lot my father to brain cancer when I was 21. Though I knew he would die, I was still shocked and hurt when it happened. I knew though that he was happier after he left this world. Being a Christian, I knew that he had gone on to be with the Lord and didn't have to deal with the pain and suffering he had to deal with while sick. It was traumatic what he went through.

Nothing wrong with still being single. You're still a young good looking woman who has a lot of life to live. If you're not ready to get married, definitely don't rush into it. You may one day find yourself associating with someone that you really like, and suddenly realize you love him, and want to spend your life with him. If not, well that's OK too.

I do understand what you mean about all that is involved in sharing the everyday life. You may know, from the other TBD, that my marriage has not been a good one at all, though I have been married almost 29 years. I stay because I made a commitment, and now, with younger children, am not going to leave them alone. I want to be a positive role model and guide in their life. However, if I were ever single again, I don't know if I could remarry. I won't say that I wouldn't, but it's not something I would have a desire to rush into. I would need to get rid of the emotional baggage of this bad marriage first.

There are always people who question committment. It isn't easy. Especially when one or the other chooses not to live a normal married life. You may have read at the wrong time. This thread is geared towards strengthening marriages, and maybe, if possible, providing insight on how to strengthen troubled ones and making good ones even stronger. I hope I have that right, since Coral is the one who started the thread.

I'm sorry to hear about your widow-hood. I know that must be tough.

You're very right though, you do need to have someone with simular moral's and values to have a strong marriage. Otherwise there will always be an undercurrent of tension that doesn't belong in a marriage.

Hey CRZ. thanks for joining my little group. I hope this incarnation of TBD turns out as good as the other.

GL

This group was at the other TBD site also. However, with all of the other groups there, it often got lost in the shuffle. I'm glad that Coral started it here also. She is a good woman who is an inspiration on how to live a happily married and monogamous life. It can be done, and very happily so. It does take the efforts of both in the marriage to make it work though, and often, pride, anger, and pain can get in the way. Married and Monogamous may not sound exciting, but in reality, if lived properly, can be the most exciting and fulfilling relationship imagined.