I started seeing a new psychiatrist about two weeks ago. His name is Abbas Jama, MD. He is a black Muslim from the African country of Somalia. He's very bright, with a research orientation. I admire his work. He was a research fellow at the University of Maryland School of Medicine doing research on the genetics of schizophrenia. Dr. Jama is the type of person I would like to have as a friend. I think we would get along very well. I like few people. I have no feelings about most people, and dislike a few. But I also really like very few people. I haven't had a psychiatrist I really liked since about the year 1991. I don't form a working therapeutic relationshyip with the vast majority of psychiatrists I see. I think it's because I can't form a relationship with a psychiatrist that I never seem to improve in therapy. I've been seeing psychiatrists since 1977, when I was 23 years old.
Be that as it may.
I would like to socialize with Dr Jama. Is that an appropriate or inappropriate wish?
There's some evidence that socializing with one's psychiatrist is not necessarily inappropriate. In 1978, when I was 24 years old, my then treating psychiatrist, I.J. Oberman, D.O., told me that he owned a farm. He said he lived on the farm and that I would be welcome to stay at his farm for a few weeks. I never took him up on the offer.
Was it inappropriate for my psychiatrist to offer to have me as a houseguest at his farm for a couple of weeks? I don't know. Dr. Oberman was an experienced psychiatrist, 58 years old at the time. He was a trained psychoanalyst, and, in fact, had done his analytic training with Theodor Reik, who had been a student of Freud's in Vienna. That's my one claim to fame: that I was once treated by a psychiatrist who was trained by an analyst who had been trained by Freud himself. In a sense, there is a direct link between me and Sigmund Freud, however tenuous that link might be!
Should I ask my current therapist, Dr. Jama, if he would have lunch with me? I strongly suspect that he would say no. But I can try.