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Big Bad Bully

Ok...Today was a good day...I went to a nice little back-yard Bar-b-q. The peoples yard was very quaint & green.One wall covered w/ potted plants & ivy growing up the side...It had the effect of a English countryside cottage..green is my favorite color & being around greenery always makes me feel pretty good.The people were nice & the food was good ol All American Hamburgers & Hotdogs with Baked beans, Cole Slaw, & Potato Salad...heavenly hash for desert.

When we got back the Bf pulled into our neighbors yard to pick up something that appears to be a good sized abandoned dog run they got out of a field its been sitting in for 8 years...since we are thinking of getting a puppy we could use the dog run....So...we brought it back here with our neighbors help...as we were standing arounfd talking...he punched my BF in the arm...I guess it was supposed to be a good ol boy punch, but it was way to hard of a punch to be considered playful.....Well I spoke up & told him not to punch people like that....Then the bf chimmed in & told him that was his bad arm & to never hit him like that again.

Next thing you know after verbal exchanges he pushed the BF down & knocked his shoulder out of place.....Then the neighbor walked to his house yelling. Then he said "You better move because the honeymoon is over".................I consider that a threat.

We have lived in this neighborhood for a very long time & so has this neighbor, but the friendship between this man & my friend is pretty new. They help each other out when need be...He has no vehicle so we take him places etc & he (In exchange) does what he can for us too.

Thing is I dont trust him..He reads only books about violence (true stories) & his bullyness scares me. Anyway...I had previously told the Bf to stay away from him, but you know..no-one listens to me....

The BF called 911 & they took a report, but he didn't want to press charges.

What would you have done? Pressed charges or not?.....Gawd......He lives 1/2 a block away & I have to walk by his house to go to the corner store...I think he is off his stupid rocker.

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Permalink Reply by funesthememorious on May 23, 2011 at 3:46am

His behavior is an indicator of sociopathic tendencies. I'd avoid him as much as possible.

Permalink Reply by Stir Young on May 23, 2011 at 3:59am

I agree....stay away from the dude.

It seems that every neighborhood has some kind of nutcase.....its not something we can really run away from, so we have to deal as best we can, and that may include intervention by the authorities.

I'm curious, had the guys been drinking?

Permalink Reply by caseyjo on May 23, 2011 at 5:25am

Thanks you two...My friend had not been drinking...he quit several weeks ago before his gall bladder surgery..The other guy is a daily drinker, but we didnt see him drinking...we just got back from a bar-b-q. I was standing right there when this all took place so I know there was no foul play on the part of my friend...This guy I do consider dangerous...he hits & pushes down a guy who he knows had surgery less than a month ago.....

I had seen signs of his being unstable months ago & warned the Bf to stay away......He says some strange things, always comparing his body size w/ my friends who is about 5'8 & 200 lbs..he is much bigger, & more muscular, and acting as if we are obligated to help him out whenever he needs help... The BF told me he turned him down for a ride he asked for one day, & he told me he said...."You better not ever turn me down for a ride ever again"...I asked the BF why he was still friends with that nutcase & he said..."He knows he is a bit off his rocker, & takes that into consideration when dealing w/ him".

Permalink Reply by Bob Stepp on May 23, 2011 at 6:19am

Avoid the guy, don't even acknowledge his presence. Do not run, do not hide...live your life as though he wasn't there. Show no fear. Be ready to dial 911 though, and don't hesitate to do so. Document any and every incident for that will be the only proof you have, unless of course blood is let and lives are endangered. Let him know in subtle ways that you are not afraid od him.

Good luck, my friend

Permalink Reply by CWO3ROBBIE on May 23, 2011 at 6:26am

Yeh, You don't want to show fear. That is what these people get off on.

Another reason to live in an RV. If you don't like your neighbor, you can easly move.

Wish there was something I could do to help.

Permalink Reply by d's girl on May 23, 2011 at 12:58pm

I'm sorry you're in this situation, caseyjo. I agree w/all the other feedback that's been given here.

The less you engage w/him, the less opportunity there is for another altercation, and I agree w/the others that by maintaining a calm confidence, you're doing the best you can not to provoke him.

Good luck. :-(

Permalink Reply by TeeBubbaDee on May 23, 2011 at 1:08pm

Just my 2 cents worth caseyjo, I agree with all of the advice you have alreasdy had, but I would have pressed charges. That way this nut job would know for sure that you would no longer tolerate his behavior.

Permalink Reply by caseyjo on May 23, 2011 at 2:36pm

Thanks everyone....very good advice...it is weighing heavy on the my friends shoulders whether or not to press charges.The reason my friend decided not to press charges is the fellow has 3 cats, but hes still thinking it over. I was talking to my next door neighbor today who also had a falling out w/ this fellow...we knew they used to be best friends & had stopped being friends, but we didnt know why.

Turns out.....Our neighbor saw the police car at our house last night & when I mentioned so & so...he said right off the bat..."Was it a hands on situation"?....We both shook our heads...He had his experience w/ a karate chop out of no-where. It's been a couple years since they stopped speaking. Knowing my neighbors experience I think he will leave us alone, but the police man said exactly what you said TBD....

Permalink Reply by caseyjo on May 25, 2011 at 5:41pm

Update.......We called the police back yesterday to retrive the BF's bicycle loaned to the bad guy....It was not retreived but the cop said he said he would drop it off in front of our fence the following afternoon which is today..It never happened......We can see the bicycle sitting on his porch....Nothing we can do unless we want to take him to court.

The cop says he said he was under the impression we gave him the bike for helping to fix our pump...We actually offered him money for that which he would not accept.....Why on earth would the Bf give him his only bike? He knows damn well the bike was not given to him....We also gave him a nice old freezer to use because his refridgerator broke down. The Bf is kind hearted enough not to even ask for that back because he says the guy needs to keep his food cold.....

The way I feel about it...I hope the freezer breaks down & the bicycle falls apart when he is riding it....I hope he falls in a great big puddle of mud...I hope he never gets another friend to offer him help like several of us in the neighborhood have done for him..... I hope he gets his electric turned off again & I hope he stays down & out....Thats putting it lightly.....

Big Bad Bully

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