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"Tho I Love Him , I Don't Like Him"

How can a person love someone and not like him or her ?

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Permalink Reply by Wayne Goodwin on April 25, 2013 at 8:59am

Something Pat said and felt it was maybe a good subject ..... I kinda know where it's coming from and why it was said ...

Permalink Reply by Lifesighs on April 25, 2013 at 9:23am

When you have a love connection to a parent or a child or a friend or spouse you can love them but at times they do things that make you not like them. It's sad if you can never like them. People you love are human and they will make mistakes, sometimes those mistakes are hurtful and mean spirited.

The best kind of love is unconditional, which means no matter what I will love you, not necessarily like you.

Permalink Reply by Wayne Goodwin on April 25, 2013 at 9:28am

I guess it was like when i was married . I loved her for my children but as time pasted , i began to have so many feelings of dough for her , hating the way she was doing to me and the kids . At least she left never to come back ....The economy makes it harder to be on their own so they put up with it .

Permalink Reply by Karin M Fichtner on April 25, 2013 at 9:40am

Just recently I heard my granddaughter tell one of her children, "I may love you.....but right now I don't like you very much!" Which is what her mom used to tell her.....and I used to tell her mom. I thought that was cute. I never withheld love.....but sometimes, liking wasn't so easy.

Permalink Reply by Kim on April 26, 2013 at 7:06am

Pat...I was married to someone JUST like your husband for 25 years and the best decision was to finally divorce when the kids grew up. I would have wanted to do it a lot sooner but I KNEW he would turn them against me and possibly even gain custody somehow. I was a good mother....it was all I wanted to do so why wouldnt I be? He did things with the kids and he provided a good home and comfortable living. We never worried about money. I never worked till I divorced 4 years ago. Well, we NEVER had cause to worry about money although he used to question what the hell I bought at Walmart for $200. (AS IF we couldnt afford THAT!!) Well, when you dont shop but every 2 weeks or so. I would whip out the receipt and say, "Whatever LUXURY items on here you feel I dont need, I WILL return them. OH WAIT...I DID buy a magazine that cost $1.50 and I bought a packet of HANES Her Way underwear...should I return THAT?" He would HUFF and WALK AWAY!! I certainly did NOT like that man and am not friends with ANYONE with that kind of personality!! HAVING said that, in the past year, we have had a couple good conversations on the phone and by text, but just a couple.HOWEVER, I would NEVER consider getting back with him...NEVER!!

The sad thing about life with him is we had all that money and only used it for the here and now. Besides being a wife and mom, all I ever wanted to do was TRAVEL. HE would argue that we DID travel ALOT. OH OK...every year we stayed in a FREE house about 10 minutes from Clearwater Beach in Florida and we would travel to Ohio and Pennsylvania to see relatives, I will give him THAT. We went on a 3 day cruise once and to Las Vegas to see his brother. WOW!!

Permalink Reply by crestofwaves on April 26, 2013 at 10:13am

I have not liked my children when they were doing drugs but still loved them. I think if I didn't like a partner, I would probably stop loving him too, as I did in my first marriage. I love my ex like a relative, like a cousin I don't want to be around, but if he needed me, I wouldn't abandon him.

Permalink Reply by frenchy on April 26, 2013 at 10:57am

well i had a girlfriend once that we had this attraction for each other that was beyond words .. but thats all it was in the end .. white hot lust .. and as much as i kid about sex and all for me there has to be more .. i want both .. my best friend and the white hot sex , altho as time goes by maybe hot ain't the best word to use .. luke warm sorta works .. or maybe just the next best thing .. see that post for more info ..

Permalink Reply by dwalt on April 26, 2013 at 11:00am

The only time this works with me is with my kids. Otherwise if I don't like you I sure am not going to love you. As far as my ex...well, I really don't like him. Nuff said.

Permalink Reply by Mickchick on April 26, 2013 at 2:44pm

If you're talking about your kids, I think that you probably always love them no matter what, even if you don't like their behavior.

For me, if I'm talking about a love relationship, I have had white hot lust for someone and as that waned, or even when it didn't wane, I discovered things about the person I really didn't like at all, and I realized that I CAN'T love someone I don't LIKE - I may lust for him, but I sure don't LOVE him. For me, love requires trust and respect, and if I don't trust and respect someone, I sure don't like 'im. I guess I could still trust and respect someone and not like his personality, but it would come down the same way - if I don't like you, I don't love you.

Permalink Reply by Wayne Goodwin on April 26, 2013 at 3:23pm

When i was in high school i noticed most of the pretty girls went for the tough looking guys , football hunks . Us ordinary guy's were mostly out of luck . I was 21 and already in the working crowd before i ever got turned . She said , "I Got Your Cherry" . Didn't know what to say , shyness over took a response ...

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