So, what is worse, or is it a combo pack: a partner that is not supportive of your endeavors, dreams, who you are....not supportive of your trials/tribulations especially health issues (they can't deal, cope or just ignore that you're not well...hey get over it already!)...or emotionally/physically they're not there ?
Worse, it can be all three, or they're so closely related it all stinks right ?
I was with someone who became unhinged and unavailable when I got seriously ill (I survived it, but the wounds of friends/loved one fleeing for the hills still hurts), and was just devastated by that on top of the health scare....but there are others ways a partner is not supportive, many and not to make one worse than the other...but how is it for you ladies ?
What's worse in your book ?
Getting the silent treatment:
When this happens, you don't even know that you did anything wrong because your partner won't tell you what's on his mind but the silence makes you feel like you are presumed guilty without your consent.
Then, the silence turns into head games. And that, really sucks!
Living together, and you think you live alone....hmph...
Having some experience with 4 husbands, the worst is not communicating on a level that's honest or keeping feeling all bottled up. Doesn't help either partner and makes all situations worse.
First husband was polite and nice however no emotion ever leaked out, I didn't know anything about the real man in there if there was one.
Second husband was emotional to the point of violence, he didn't last 6 months.
Third husband was sneaky and lied about everything so who knows what he was about.
Forth husband is a keeper, he has always been my cheerleader and encouraged me to do whatever I dreamed about doing. He also listens closely and we have great conversations. In a recent health scare for me he kept saying we're going to think positive, he was right however if the news was bad I have a feeling he might have fallen apart before he picked himself up and supported me again.
Annieoak I understand what you're saying. I was married for 30 years before I finally left and looking back I don't remember ever having an emotional connection with. Eventually I had rage and decided it was time to leave. Like you I was always alone If it wasn't for the kids I would have been alone. For three years I lived alone and at least then the kids came to visit.
I WENT THRU IT ALL..
MY EX WAS NEVER THERE FOR ME
THRU OUT THE YEARS PLUS HE WAS ABUSIVE
ALL THE WAY TIL HE GOT A GIRLFRIEND..
THIS WAS YRS AGO...
NOW HE'S LIVES THE HOMELESS MAN'S LIFE..
OH HOW HE WISHES HE WAS STILL WITH ME..