I am starting a new thread here mainly for purposes of my own catharsis. It is my intention, at least at this point, to make regular contributions. Of course, if anyone else has anything to add, they are more than welcome. If you have any input, please contribute.
Over a year ago I decided to deal head-on with my self-diagnosed adult attention disorder, (ADD). The inability to stay focused was becoming too stressful. I found myself sitting around watching the clock tick, yet I couldn’t keep “on task” with any project I started. Nothing was getting done and just starting something was becoming depressing.
The smart thing to do was probably to get professional help, so instead I decided to try to heal myself, at least as a first try. Cognitive therapy and pharmaceuticals (UGH) might be the approved way to go but I decided to try meditation first.
18 months and countless self-help books later, I still can’t bring myself to a regular, formal meditation program. But, along the way, I discovered informal mindfulness. Yes, I know it is the “Fad” right now. It is hard to navigate modern social trends without “tripping over” somebody extolling the benefits of mindfulness.
Let me add my voice to the chorus.
"The path through trouble is always made a step at a time, a breath at a time, a day at a time. " ~ Jack Kornfield
"Being miserable is a habit. Being happy is a habit. The choice is yours." ~ Tom Hopkins
We all know those people. The people who go by the credo "If it weren't for bad luck, I'd have no luck at all." The people with a victim complex. While we can see that they are doing it to themselves, it is sometimes hard to see why, when there are so many obviously positive things in their lives that go by uncredited. It's easier to understand when the behavior gets framed as a habit. Habits are hard to break.
Staying mindful in the present, remaining aware at each moment, of every thought, of every feeling as it arises, is the key to breaking habits. Mindfulness is the death of habit, the birth of choice.
"You can try to become happy by controlling your environment, or by cultivating quietude/gratitude in your mind.. The latter is much easier. ~ Haemin Sunim
This may be true, but still conflicts me. Sometimes elements in the environment need addressed. This quote advocates taking the easy way out, in order to obtain happiness even when it means backing down to some needed justice reform.
The Buddha is famous for recommending the "Middle Path." In this situation, I think that means realistic discernment between when to resist and when to cut your losses and back down. The Serenity Prayer comes to mind.
Many people squander so much of their life searching for the right person when they should be diligent about being the right person.
Being the right person dramatically increases the odds of being found by the right person.