today i learned that my best friend is dead. - TBD2024-03-29T08:12:57Zhttp://teebeedee.ning.com/forum/topics/today-i-learned-that-my-best-friend-is-dead?groupUrl=qa&commentId=1991841%3AComment%3A1375842&x=1&feed=yes&xn_auth=noLike Bob said michael, One da…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2012-05-12:1991841:Comment:13758422012-05-12T01:19:56.342ZTeeBubbaDeehttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/TeeBubbaDee
<p>Like Bob said michael, One day at a time, one breath at a time. </p>
<p>Like Bob said michael, One day at a time, one breath at a time. </p> It's good to see you are doin…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2012-05-11:1991841:Comment:13756412012-05-11T16:11:09.972ZJoellahttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/Joella
<p>It's good to see you are doing better Michael. It does get better in increments.</p>
<p>It's good to see you are doing better Michael. It does get better in increments.</p> Good for you Michael. One day…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2012-05-11:1991841:Comment:13756372012-05-11T13:07:54.661ZBob Stepphttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/BobStepp
<p>Good for you Michael. One day at a time.</p>
<p>Good for you Michael. One day at a time.</p> I'm grateful to hear that you…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2012-05-11:1991841:Comment:13757202012-05-11T03:23:37.310ZTeeBubbaDeehttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/TeeBubbaDee
<p>I'm grateful to hear that you are feeling better michael. Hopefully the healing process has begun and will continue.</p>
<p>Peace</p>
<p>I'm grateful to hear that you are feeling better michael. Hopefully the healing process has begun and will continue.</p>
<p>Peace</p> Actually, D.D., I wrote her a…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2012-05-11:1991841:Comment:13757152012-05-11T02:14:25.641Zmichael clubbhttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/michaelclubb
<p>Actually, D.D., I wrote her another letter and saved it in my journal. One of the hardest things to give up is that we wrote to each other a lot. Sent photos (she was a photographer and artist in general). I really like writing to her and getting letters in return. But yes, I do feel better already. Still think about her all day long but it isnt so debilitating.</p>
<p>Actually, D.D., I wrote her another letter and saved it in my journal. One of the hardest things to give up is that we wrote to each other a lot. Sent photos (she was a photographer and artist in general). I really like writing to her and getting letters in return. But yes, I do feel better already. Still think about her all day long but it isnt so debilitating.</p> I am so sorry, Michael, about…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2012-05-11:1991841:Comment:13757912012-05-11T00:57:58.584ZD. D. Olsonhttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/DDOlson
<p>I am so sorry, Michael, about the loss of your friend. It's hard to be the one left behind, and even harder when your grieving is stuck. It's been a few days since your post - maybe you have felt a little relief from the pressure by now. Baia had some very good suggestions. </p>
<p>There are many ways to grieve - do whatever works or feels right. I found that writing an obituary for my loved ones who have passed was helpful and healing. Or perhaps some sort of small, private shrine for…</p>
<p>I am so sorry, Michael, about the loss of your friend. It's hard to be the one left behind, and even harder when your grieving is stuck. It's been a few days since your post - maybe you have felt a little relief from the pressure by now. Baia had some very good suggestions. </p>
<p>There are many ways to grieve - do whatever works or feels right. I found that writing an obituary for my loved ones who have passed was helpful and healing. Or perhaps some sort of small, private shrine for your friend. </p>
<p>Please let us know how you are. We care.</p> All I can say is "I'm Sorry"…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2012-05-09:1991841:Comment:13755632012-05-09T03:37:19.269ZSnagghttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/DavidCarltonHustava
<p> All I can say is "I'm Sorry" for your loss, Michael. I've been through something similar, and there IS no all-purpose advice for dealing with it, other than knowing that you will pull through this when you are ready. Hang in there.</p>
<p> All I can say is "I'm Sorry" for your loss, Michael. I've been through something similar, and there IS no all-purpose advice for dealing with it, other than knowing that you will pull through this when you are ready. Hang in there.</p> I'm very sorry to hear this,…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2012-05-09:1991841:Comment:13754312012-05-09T02:40:26.635ZGoldilocks46http://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/Goldilocks46
<p>I'm very sorry to hear this, Michael.</p>
<p>I'm very sorry to hear this, Michael.</p> Sorry to hear of your loss mi…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2012-05-09:1991841:Comment:13755572012-05-09T02:14:42.411ZFaye Greenerhttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/FayeGreener
<p>Sorry to hear of your loss michael. I would suggest praying, but that may not be your thing. It helps me in such circumstanses.</p>
<p>Sorry to hear of your loss michael. I would suggest praying, but that may not be your thing. It helps me in such circumstanses.</p> I am so sorry to hear about t…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2012-05-09:1991841:Comment:13754842012-05-09T00:04:00.025ZBaiahttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/JaniceTakashima
<p>I am so sorry to hear about the death of your friend, Michael. I hope you are able to find a way to cry.</p>
<p>It really does help to wash away the tension of your grief. You'll still have your grief, but it just won't feel so tight.</p>
<p>If you don't mind, I'd like to offer a couple of suggestions for taking care of yourself:</p>
<p>Write another letter to your friend. Just spill it all out to her. Everything she and her family have meant to you, memories that you share, how you are…</p>
<p>I am so sorry to hear about the death of your friend, Michael. I hope you are able to find a way to cry.</p>
<p>It really does help to wash away the tension of your grief. You'll still have your grief, but it just won't feel so tight.</p>
<p>If you don't mind, I'd like to offer a couple of suggestions for taking care of yourself:</p>
<p>Write another letter to your friend. Just spill it all out to her. Everything she and her family have meant to you, memories that you share, how you are feeling about her now, etc. Then put it away for a while.</p>
<p>Rent some tear-jerker videos. Old Yeller and Phar Lap are two that I can't resist. War movies always make my cry, so I don't ever watch them in theaters. El Cid was an embarrassment. I'll bet you can get some recommendations from our TBD friends.</p>
<p>Telling us about it here, is an excellent first step. What everyone has said so far: I agree. </p>
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