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How do you feel about getting multiple replies to a multiple mailing you didn't send? Let's get together and work out how to handle this new feature.

I really don't like the 'twitter' aspect of it. I am getting an inbox full of stuff that has nothing to do with me. Even though it may be mildly interesting to know who washed their car this weekend, it is really not my business. I didn't ask. I can get along fine without knowing that.

If I should send out a group mailing to announce that I've cut my hair or to invite you to a virtual party, I shall request that you reply only to me.

How about you?

Tags: TMI, Twitter, communication, friends, good_manners, junk_mail, recycle_bin, white_noise

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Alla - is it is possible that there was a back log prior to you taking yourself off the list?
By 'back log' do you mean delay in mailing? If the answer is 'yes', then it would be the same content. Now I get new messages from people on the list that were generated after the 'unkind' message. So, no, it's not 'back log'. If this does not answer your question, Di, clarify. I am not on the list anymore in general: the girl got really mad and took me off her friend's list.

So, this is one thing ning brought into our relationships: more frequent communication that leads to more conflicts. What do you know, we are getting real here, on ning.
Alla Wrote:
By 'back log' do you mean delay in mailing? If the answer is 'yes', then it would be the same content. Now I get new messages from people on the list that were generated after the 'unkind' message. So, no, it's not 'back log'. If this does not answer your question, Di, clarify. I am not on the list anymore in general: the girl got really mad and took me off her friend's list.


Yes I did and now I understand better thank you for the clarification. The thing is - it's hard to understand what this site does - and how different actions impact on others. It's unlike any I've yet encountered. You are an expert, so it was be very annoying for you when things go south that impact directly.

Perhaps you are one of the most qualified people here to work with other Ning experts to stitch together a help list or help guideline that shows what actions = what result(s) . It could go into a discussion in George's wonderful Help Group, and here, indeed it could be dropped into any situation or discussion as needed.

A virtual portable pragmatic FYI help list or TBD Guideline. No remonstrations - just the facts and how to keep from making mistakes.

Very few people want to be intentionally annoying. But it becomes unavoidable if one does not know what one is doing, so we must cut one another some slack. We are sinking more than we seem to be swimming here. Without a whiff of leadership at present (even benign) it's up to us to form a team that can formulate a way to help and support everyone.

L'est ways, such is my two cents worth.
Diana, you raised very good point: we have to figure out how this site functions. That should be step #1. I actually started doing something but did not get anywhere. I needed somebody not on my friends list to send me a message. Nobody did. That means 1 of 2 things: either everybody that saw my request is on my friends list or nobody give a damn.

About help list - I think we can safely forget about requesting ning to change software. The same software works on 847 websites that ning owns. Changing software means spending so much money, that I refuse to speculate about it. Besides, most likely, if the software is changed, it would have to be installed on all websites. Why would ning do it? Is it feasible? No, it's not. TBD ning has hardly 2000 users. That's nothing for ning. They have sites where membership is much more significant. Also, the main rule in IT world 'If it ain't broken, tough fix it'.

Meanwhile, I want to bring the fact that there are tools that are not utilized yet. For example, blocking messages. If you block an annoying message, all messages from that person will be blocked. Now we have to ask ourselves a question: does this person send out annoying messages all the time or just this 1 time. We will act accordingly: if it’s all the time and it’s really annoying, drop the person from the friend’s list. I don’t like this solution, but this is the reality of internet. There could be other solutions that we did not discover yet. I think we have to sit tight for a while and get hands-on experience for at least one month.
Thank you, Pru, and all of you; this is why I started this discussion, so that we could all become aware of the consequences of our actions and learn to use our new toys correctly to further communication rather than to make it frustrating.
Yes Pru, my point all along too. It's early days, let's cut one another some slack. I was not suggesting changing Ning - I'm interested in know how it all works, I want an instruction manual - and there does not seem to be one. Facebook has one - Myspace has one - surely Ning has something too?
Alla - can one unblock someone once they have been blocked? One could not do this on TBD1 . Once blocked one remained blocked.
Here you can unblock. The person has to stay on your friend's list.
Alla, first of all, she wasn't nice at all.

I used to get two pages of TBD stuff. I unchecked almost everything. And now I only get 1 1/2 pages.

I suspect that things will eventually settle down. Now everyone is excited and trying out the new buttons and bows.

And we, as adults with manners, will just ignore those without manners. Because that is what we do.

Except for me. I yell at them.
People that do not have basic understanding of what's right and what's wrong have to be kept inline, otherwise you will find them sitting on your head and having fun. I can ignore many things, but not all of the things that irritate me. So, far I lost 2 friends in my TBD life since Nov, 2007: I got rid of one and one got rid of me. And, yes, SeaRain, we can yell at them - just hit your shift button.
Hi, Anthony. Maybe we need to send those responders the link to this discussion...make it a 'reply to all' and explain nicely why you are sending it. I did it a few times and mine have nearly stopped. Until a new arrival comes in and starts again, I suppose. It's just training...

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