I am starting a new thread here mainly for purposes of my own catharsis. It is my intention, at least at this point, to make regular contributions. Of course, if anyone else has anything to add, they are more than welcome. If you have any input, please contribute.
Over a year ago I decided to deal head-on with my self-diagnosed adult attention disorder, (ADD). The inability to stay focused was becoming too stressful. I found myself sitting around watching the clock tick, yet I couldn’t keep “on task” with any project I started. Nothing was getting done and just starting something was becoming depressing.
The smart thing to do was probably to get professional help, so instead I decided to try to heal myself, at least as a first try. Cognitive therapy and pharmaceuticals (UGH) might be the approved way to go but I decided to try meditation first.
18 months and countless self-help books later, I still can’t bring myself to a regular, formal meditation program. But, along the way, I discovered informal mindfulness. Yes, I know it is the “Fad” right now. It is hard to navigate modern social trends without “tripping over” somebody extolling the benefits of mindfulness.
Let me add my voice to the chorus.
"Listen to people, don't just want your turn to speak." ~ Daily Zen
"The truth you believe and cling to makes you unavailable to hear anything new." ~ Pema Chodrin
"Invite your fear, worry and insecurity to join you as you walk through life today. Walk together - you and all your vulnerabilities. Hold their hand, tell them they are not alone, assure them that you are there." ~ Jason Garner
OK, that'll take some strength. Imagine how satisfied ill be to pull it off.
Mindfulness goes hand in hand with good listening skills. I develop them together.
"You can not truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time." ~ M. Scott Peck
"Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you would have preferred to talk." ~ Doug Larson
"One of the most essential ways of saying 'I love you.' Is being a receptive listener." ~ Fred Rogers
"Proper effort is not the effort to make something particular happen. It is the effort to be aware and awake each moment." ~ Ajahn Chah
"Try to see your emotions as information - sometimes accurate and useful, sometimes incorrect and unhelpful, but never good or bad in and of themselves." ~ Nick Wignall
"Funny how we outgrow what we once thought we couldn't live without, and that we fall in love with what we didn't even know we wanted. Life keeps leading us on journeys we'd never go on if it were up to us. Don't be afraid. Find the lesson, trust the journey." ~ Marc and Angel Chernoff
My resolution today is to keep in mind the distinction between "Living in the moment" and "Living for the moment." Just a simple swap of one small preposition reverses the stress response.