I am starting a new thread here mainly for purposes of my own catharsis. It is my intention, at least at this point, to make regular contributions. Of course, if anyone else has anything to add, they are more than welcome. If you have any input, please contribute.
Over a year ago I decided to deal head-on with my self-diagnosed adult attention disorder, (ADD). The inability to stay focused was becoming too stressful. I found myself sitting around watching the clock tick, yet I couldn’t keep “on task” with any project I started. Nothing was getting done and just starting something was becoming depressing.
The smart thing to do was probably to get professional help, so instead I decided to try to heal myself, at least as a first try. Cognitive therapy and pharmaceuticals (UGH) might be the approved way to go but I decided to try meditation first.
18 months and countless self-help books later, I still can’t bring myself to a regular, formal meditation program. But, along the way, I discovered informal mindfulness. Yes, I know it is the “Fad” right now. It is hard to navigate modern social trends without “tripping over” somebody extolling the benefits of mindfulness.
Let me add my voice to the chorus.
"...you can gradually replace weeds with flowers in the garden of your mind." ~ Rick Hanson, PhD, from Neurodharma
Upon reading this passage I immediately experienced it as both charming and memorable, but something about it bothers me. While the 'garden of your mind' remains an effective metaphor, the 'replace weeds with flowers' part seems a bit judgy. Sometimes a weed might just be an unexpected flower in need of some love. Sometimes a problem is better viewed as an opportunity. Sometimes our mental garden needs less cultivation and more appreciation of its wildness.
“I’m too busy
working on my
own grass to
notice if yours
Marc & Angel Chernoff
“The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails.” ~William Arthur Ward
The pessimistic sees the glass as half empty, the optimist as half full. The realist is grateful to have a glass.
"No matter how far your mind tries to jump ahead, the path forward is always step by step, breath by breath. All we can ever do is breathe and take the step in front of us." ~ Jason Garner
We all form opinions about people; everyone in our awareness whether we have known them forever or just heard about them through hearsay. It's just something we do. But it works both ways. People are inevitably forming opinions about us as well. Whose opinion is most important to you? Think about it.
"Your opinion of yourself is more important than what others think of you.” ~ Everday Mindfullness
"Choose an item that you use every day (a mug, toothbrush, fork, etc), and draw it. What new things do you notice about it?" ~ the Mindfulness Project
"I’m just trying to remember that people don’t need me to fix them. They’re not broken. What they need is for me to present with them. To be with them—to listen—without the need to do anything." ~Becki Sams
"Intentionally paying attention to a neutral point of focus is the easiest way to stabilize the mind, like an anchor that stops a boat from drifting aimlessly or getting tossed around in a storm." ~ Susan Bauer-Wu