Does Age Matter ? What is considered too old for you when being with someone ? - TBD2024-03-28T16:27:22Zhttp://teebeedee.ning.com/forum/topics/does-age-matter-what-is-considered-too-old-for-you-when-being?groupUrl=forwomenonly&commentId=1991841%3AComment%3A1446535&groupId=1991841%3AGroup%3A99185&feed=yes&xn_auth=noLoL! I hear you sista! Goodne…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2013-10-24:1991841:Comment:16212252013-10-24T02:41:05.691ZDazzling Zoomer Gal Dianahttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/DazzlingZoomerGalDiana
<p>LoL! I hear you sista! Goodness - their egos. As to the chap in question - we move (lurch?) onward towards 12 months on and off and on again - me exercising far more patience than I perhaps should. However I do like him. More than he knows. He does not see how he is aging, which mystifies me, but perhaps this is a twist to our culture that we all must accept. Perhaps we have been trained without our realizing it to ignore our respective disintegrations in favour of a kind of retro hippie…</p>
<p>LoL! I hear you sista! Goodness - their egos. As to the chap in question - we move (lurch?) onward towards 12 months on and off and on again - me exercising far more patience than I perhaps should. However I do like him. More than he knows. He does not see how he is aging, which mystifies me, but perhaps this is a twist to our culture that we all must accept. Perhaps we have been trained without our realizing it to ignore our respective disintegrations in favour of a kind of retro hippie idealism that we will never grow old. <br/><br/>In the mean time I decided to join okcupid - and that's a bit kicky - my profile says I'm 60 ( which I am ) and it is fascinating to watch who shows up and what they have to say for themselves and about me . <br/><br/>It is good to be bad! (Realistically speaking!) </p> Further to the 10 month gig -…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2013-09-24:1991841:Comment:16099812013-09-24T21:33:11.940ZThe Wolfdancerhttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/PatriciaJones
<p><em>Further to the 10 month gig - we had to have that "you're not Brad Pitt " conversation. Man, many men have this - what I like to call the "Hugh Hefner" entitlement complex." It's out there in porn - so I'm entitled in perpetuity to younger better whatever", even though the dudes are hardly a great grand prize themselves.</em></p>
<p>Dazzling...I hear you on this one...I am hearing CONSTANTLY...how handsome, how awesome, how lucky I am...when in reality..I should be saying <em>this…</em></p>
<p><em>Further to the 10 month gig - we had to have that "you're not Brad Pitt " conversation. Man, many men have this - what I like to call the "Hugh Hefner" entitlement complex." It's out there in porn - so I'm entitled in perpetuity to younger better whatever", even though the dudes are hardly a great grand prize themselves.</em></p>
<p>Dazzling...I hear you on this one...I am hearing CONSTANTLY...how handsome, how awesome, how lucky I am...when in reality..I should be saying <em>this</em> to him, to someone who is barely holding it together at this stage of his life lol ! But some men need to, have to do this I guess ? Though this Adonis thing drives me crazy...I just look when the comments are made and smile....knowingly. And laugh to myself...ya know to save face on his behalf.</p>
<p>bad girl i am.bad.</p>
<p>a realistic bad girl.</p> I like what you said about "c…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2013-09-18:1991841:Comment:16075922013-09-18T05:00:32.614ZSonja Gaylehttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/SonjaGayle
<p>I like what you said about "chronic illness" - Sometimes you have to love them for who they were. It is amazing to look back at pictures of my husband and see how thin he was when he came home from Vietnam, and for many years after that.</p>
<p>I misquoted in a post earlier. We will be married 47 years this Oct. We have 4 grandchildren and expecting our 5th in Jan. </p>
<p>I like what you said about "chronic illness" - Sometimes you have to love them for who they were. It is amazing to look back at pictures of my husband and see how thin he was when he came home from Vietnam, and for many years after that.</p>
<p>I misquoted in a post earlier. We will be married 47 years this Oct. We have 4 grandchildren and expecting our 5th in Jan. </p> Very very cool!tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2013-09-17:1991841:Comment:16072572013-09-17T04:14:19.268ZDazzling Zoomer Gal Dianahttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/DazzlingZoomerGalDiana
<p>Very very cool!</p>
<p>Very very cool!</p> I am so sorry for your loss.…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2013-09-17:1991841:Comment:16070392013-09-17T04:13:49.860ZDazzling Zoomer Gal Dianahttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/DazzlingZoomerGalDiana
<p>I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for a beautiful tribute. </p>
<p>You took a great grand leap of faith, and had "22 lovely years together". That is more than most people can say, so well done to you both.</p>
<p>Even one year, indeed even a hug of a moment in time with the right person, can be transformational, and is worth the effort and the risk. </p>
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<p>I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for a beautiful tribute. </p>
<p>You took a great grand leap of faith, and had "22 lovely years together". That is more than most people can say, so well done to you both.</p>
<p>Even one year, indeed even a hug of a moment in time with the right person, can be transformational, and is worth the effort and the risk. </p>
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<p></p> So perfectly put WS. It behov…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2013-09-17:1991841:Comment:16071002013-09-17T04:06:32.885ZDazzling Zoomer Gal Dianahttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/DazzlingZoomerGalDiana
<p>So perfectly put WS. It behoves men and women over 45 that at any given moment, the roles can ( and often will) be reversed. <br></br><br></br>Often I hear people speak who are in our age range - who should be more mature - and wise (for goodness-sake), say " I am not in LOVE - so how will/can it work!?! " Well - often "falling in love" is more about projection and fantasy and lust ( which has no mercy) than it is about authenticity and friendship and genuine care and comfort. <br></br><br></br>I don't…</p>
<p>So perfectly put WS. It behoves men and women over 45 that at any given moment, the roles can ( and often will) be reversed. <br/><br/>Often I hear people speak who are in our age range - who should be more mature - and wise (for goodness-sake), say " I am not in LOVE - so how will/can it work!?! " Well - often "falling in love" is more about projection and fantasy and lust ( which has no mercy) than it is about authenticity and friendship and genuine care and comfort. <br/><br/>I don't trust lust, although I will give it the attention it may deserve. It takes me a long time to "fall in love" because love to my mind, must be earned. Over time. Friendship is much more important. A loving friendship can withstand anything. If the foundation is solid falling in love together - from time to time, is grand. </p>
<p></p> This is such a great question…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2013-09-17:1991841:Comment:16070972013-09-17T03:44:12.061ZDazzling Zoomer Gal Dianahttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/DazzlingZoomerGalDiana
<p>This is such a great question I am still pondering it. Thank you <em>Wolfdancer.</em><br></br><br></br>I have travelled several age roles and roads with men. Seven years plus with someone 13 years my elder. Then almost 20 years with someone a mere 6 years my senior. A mistake of an accidental marriage for a year to someone 13 years older. Then back for 5 years with the man a mere 6 years my senior. Then just over 6 years with someone 13 years younger. And recently I almost lost an important…</p>
<p>This is such a great question I am still pondering it. Thank you <em>Wolfdancer.</em><br/><br/>I have travelled several age roles and roads with men. Seven years plus with someone 13 years my elder. Then almost 20 years with someone a mere 6 years my senior. A mistake of an accidental marriage for a year to someone 13 years older. Then back for 5 years with the man a mere 6 years my senior. Then just over 6 years with someone 13 years younger. And recently I almost lost an important friendship, with potential, because the chap who is just shy of 6 years my junior ( I am 60 - he is pushing 55) told me I was "too old" for him (even though he has more health problems than I do and he has a hard time keeping UP with me, to make a long story short ). We are restructuring the paradigm and he has had to give his head a good shake. Time will tell. It has only been 10 months. <br/><br/> Further to the 10 month gig - we had to have that "you're not Brad Pitt " conversation. Man, many men have this - what I like to call the "Hugh Hefner" entitlement complex." <em>It's out there in porn - so I'm entitled in perpetuity to younger better whatever</em>", even though the dudes are hardly a great grand prize themselves. <br/><br/> Peter Pan is an old dude caught in the revolving door of the more is more syndrome because there is always more, and Wendy has more sense and will bail because no one wants to be controlled by a naked boxer who shadow punches his way through his love life in terror of commitment. Boring. A man who ignites a woman's love without the intention of truly loveing her, is a coward. <br/><br/>I would hesitate being with anyone more than seventy five years old right now - because my 60 is very much a 45 to 50 - I am in better shape now than I suspect I've ever been. However I feel the clock ticking. Faster and faster. So now - it is all about quality. Quality of person and the time spent with them - had better add up to FUN, and happiness, and mutual admiration and respect. The rest, I trust, will look after itself. </p> I think if there is actually…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2013-09-15:1991841:Comment:16062472013-09-15T16:33:33.010ZWitchy Luckhttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/WitchyLuck
<p>I think if there is actually love your first thought when you see them in the morning isn't, "Oh, what a burden you are". You may think that at times, but it is neither your first, nor your primary reaction. Chronic illness changes a person. Sometimes you have to love them for who they were.</p>
<p>I think if there is actually love your first thought when you see them in the morning isn't, "Oh, what a burden you are". You may think that at times, but it is neither your first, nor your primary reaction. Chronic illness changes a person. Sometimes you have to love them for who they were.</p> I'm in a relationship with a…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2013-09-12:1991841:Comment:16050982013-09-12T17:47:03.255ZDevin Millshttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/DevinMills
<p>I'm in a relationship with a guy nine years my junior. It's awesome, but sometimes he acts waaaay older than me and that's a drag. Also he has a lot of physical challenges - who would've thought. But every relationship has its obsticles and most of the time we're just fine. btw, our actual chronological age has never been an issue. :)</p>
<p>I'm in a relationship with a guy nine years my junior. It's awesome, but sometimes he acts waaaay older than me and that's a drag. Also he has a lot of physical challenges - who would've thought. But every relationship has its obsticles and most of the time we're just fine. btw, our actual chronological age has never been an issue. :)</p> In reply to Wolfdancer's late…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2013-01-27:1991841:Comment:14611712013-01-27T02:51:16.201ZSonja Gaylehttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/SonjaGayle
<p>In reply to Wolfdancer's latest comment - I am confronted with caring for my husband of 45 years who has COPD. Should he ever pass away before me, I would never get married again. There are so many personal things that I would like or could have on an agenda--no need for cooking or taking care of somebody else. P.S. - I do have "nursing home" insurance, which he is not eligible for, so hope not to be a burden for my children.</p>
<p>In reply to Wolfdancer's latest comment - I am confronted with caring for my husband of 45 years who has COPD. Should he ever pass away before me, I would never get married again. There are so many personal things that I would like or could have on an agenda--no need for cooking or taking care of somebody else. P.S. - I do have "nursing home" insurance, which he is not eligible for, so hope not to be a burden for my children.</p>