DO YOU HAVE A SHADOW HATER ON HERE? - TBD2024-03-29T22:20:20Zhttp://teebeedee.ning.com/forum/topics/do-you-have-a-shadow-hater-on?x=1&%3Bid=1991841%3ATopic%3A342189&%3Bpage=11&feed=yes&xn_auth=noNope it's about several peopl…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2009-09-07:1991841:Comment:3486292009-09-07T23:02:25.981ZTinahttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/Tina
Nope it's about several people, if you read the discussion, I am more verbal than some. Sorry you feel as you do.
Nope it's about several people, if you read the discussion, I am more verbal than some. Sorry you feel as you do. To those who say this is dram…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2009-09-07:1991841:Comment:3485382009-09-07T22:45:55.828ZTinahttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/Tina
To those who say this is drama, Yes it was very dramatic when I read those papers of all those threads and Q&A's and posts, that went on for weeks. It was dramatic. Yet all I could think about was I wanted to come back.<br />
I am simply thankful to be alive folks and thankful for those who are friends. I am a loving person and I do enjoy kindness and I do not feel badly about that.<br />
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You do not have to love, like or even think of me. I would ask that you focus then on your friends here and I will…
To those who say this is drama, Yes it was very dramatic when I read those papers of all those threads and Q&A's and posts, that went on for weeks. It was dramatic. Yet all I could think about was I wanted to come back.<br />
I am simply thankful to be alive folks and thankful for those who are friends. I am a loving person and I do enjoy kindness and I do not feel badly about that.<br />
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You do not have to love, like or even think of me. I would ask that you focus then on your friends here and I will do the same and life will be pleasant for all of us. Thanks In many ways it was my fault…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2009-09-07:1991841:Comment:3484712009-09-07T22:33:18.651ZTinahttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/Tina
In many ways it was my fault Catnip, I shared myself and my life with many here. I had nothing to hide and I am a trusting person. Had I never shared with some and then openly no one would have even known. So to my own fault that they had it to use.<br />
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Also to my own fault was that I believed that those with whom I had believed I had been online friends with would want to know if I were dead or alive. They seemed genuine to me. So Again my fault because I made my sisters two of them promise that…
In many ways it was my fault Catnip, I shared myself and my life with many here. I had nothing to hide and I am a trusting person. Had I never shared with some and then openly no one would have even known. So to my own fault that they had it to use.<br />
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Also to my own fault was that I believed that those with whom I had believed I had been online friends with would want to know if I were dead or alive. They seemed genuine to me. So Again my fault because I made my sisters two of them promise that if and/or when I could not get on line they would let people know how I was doing. One sister did, that I know of. She went directly to the person I had told her to and that person was very nice at first and loving and helpful, as it has been explained to me it was when my sister went to this "friend" of mine and asked if she should tell everyone who she was that the "friend" became ugly and upset. That "friend" is actually the one who told my sister to go ahead and do it, tell everyone who she was and just give first hand information. It wasn't but days after that that my sister was challenged by another member and accused of not being my sister. I haven't a clue who she was supposed to be but apparently not my sister.<br />
She left but told people she was leaving and when she did she was attacked on the Q&A told she was a liar and that if she were in the right she wouldn't be leaving. Well she left. Not everyone is accustomed to brawls online or otherwise. My familt is not like that, we don't act like that, sorry for those who think that is just too unreal or too, "lovey dovey". But we have known our share of pain we just support each other not attack.<br />
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So this too was my fault, the endless care giver, I was trying to be a good friend even when I couldn't do it myself.<br />
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Anyway then came the slanderous attacks on front page discussions, I have each one printed, dated and just as they were posted. A lifelong friend of mine Ray did all of this, because he was irate with what was going on and that no one was stopping it. So he printed everything so that if I did come around I would not go back online or to TBD. I was shocked, My first friend, very first friend on TBD was there posting that I was not sick and a friend said I would be dead if I had those illness', that I am not part Sioux because I never talked about the reservation they lived near. That I do not quilt, because I did not use the correct termanology for quilting. That my sister was not my sister because she knew too much about me? That because I was not having a funeral I wasn't truly sick. All sorts of malicious gossip and thoughts nothing based on fact or whatever.<br />
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So I blame myself for this also, because I never had to share myself out loud, but I did. I trust everyone. I liked everyone. I debated and posted, I sent good morning messages and yes I had a little group too. TBD was a gift to me and I don't know how many times I emailed to thank Kat. TBD was my connection, is my connection to the world. I have been visited by two TBD members in person, I have spoken with several on the phone, TBD members called family members (three different family members) and grilled them to pieces over the phone. I mean I had no clue all of this was going on at the time. How hurtful to wake up to. How absurd and never would I have imagined such a thing.<br />
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Of course I came back as soon as I was able. Why would I not. I have genuine friends here. I love this community. Why would I not come back here. I never wanted to leave, I am sick, I was sick and I am not going to say I am sorry that I did not die to appease some sick cynical thinking process of someone else.<br />
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I am Tina, I am all and everything I ever claimed to be and I am very sorry for those who choose to hate me for that. I do not hate you and I am not going anywhere until I have to or choose to. All I am asking is that I be allowed freely to not have to watch for someone to start up yet another nasty discussion when they are intending to further bash me. I can do no more to "prove" who I am..Nor more than you can "prove" you are not starting those discussions about me. I know who I am, you know who you are. I do not bother you, with the exception I just learned today that Larry and Diana do not want good morning messages from me, I apologize, it is my nature to be kind, make kind gestures. I won't do it to you either of you again. You want it to end truly, do you? Stop the gossip, many of the pm's sent have come right to me people. No one on here is who you think they are. Stop the gossip and just hate me quietly please. I love this community and I will not be bullied away...<br />
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The two I thought were my trusted friends, I know you better now, Leave it and me alone. If you hate me for your reasons please just leave it alone. I am not doing a thing to you and have no desire to. To the few others who wish to hate me because I like peace, or to leave pleasant nice thoughts around, I am at a loss for words on that. I am going to post, just leave it and I will skip over you also. Life is good , I am thankful for every day I have. Please do you truly want it to end, or do you just wish to bully me..Now Jo and JaW, who post long posts? LoL No worries, mate.tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2009-09-07:1991841:Comment:3484192009-09-07T22:23:35.550ZDakota Bluehttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/DakotaBlue
No worries, mate.
No worries, mate. So may I authentically ask th…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2009-09-07:1991841:Comment:3484142009-09-07T22:21:24.222ZDakota Bluehttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/DakotaBlue
So may I authentically ask this question then... If u have 'a life' then isn't this part of it? This is why u r here & u r posting, correct? Is the the Outside Life, or the Exstistential Life, or Real life, or fake Life?... Am I hearing you assume that ppl who post here more often than u do...don't have a life? This may sound fecicious to u, but I'm actually curious. Bec I haven't all the time or resources to get online either-but if I did, & chose to spend it in this manner, then…
So may I authentically ask this question then... If u have 'a life' then isn't this part of it? This is why u r here & u r posting, correct? Is the the Outside Life, or the Exstistential Life, or Real life, or fake Life?... Am I hearing you assume that ppl who post here more often than u do...don't have a life? This may sound fecicious to u, but I'm actually curious. Bec I haven't all the time or resources to get online either-but if I did, & chose to spend it in this manner, then ...would I, not have a life? Does my being disabled come into some sort of Exception Box or something? Could it be that some ppl actually have a very fine full rounded life here & within their homes. Or even make time from wk to get here. Would that mean my life means less than your's does? I ask bec... It seems like a valuable question. I am perfectly anonymous to you, so I guess I'm asking for all tbd'rs that would be anonymous to you. Certainly you need not reply if you choose. It may or may not be part of this topic anyways. Relevance may be difficult to determine at times. Hi Grace,
I have not had thi…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2009-09-07:1991841:Comment:3483492009-09-07T22:03:38.385ZKrisithttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/KristiPeters
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I have not had this experience so I couldnt share but after my original comment that has been thrown in ten fold and brought up through this post quite a few times, I may now have shadow haters...ROFlMFAO
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I have not had this experience so I couldnt share but after my original comment that has been thrown in ten fold and brought up through this post quite a few times, I may now have shadow haters...ROFlMFAO God Bless ya Catnip!!! Honest…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2009-09-07:1991841:Comment:3483332009-09-07T21:53:00.847ZDakota Bluehttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/DakotaBlue
God Bless ya Catnip!!! Honestly... Some ppl, "FREE SPEACH".... my point exactly! Do you Vote with this kinda mouth too slander's & joker's of the deathly ill? Kiss ur wife or mama or kiddies with the same heart? & I'll be sure to reread the guidelines, bec I'm pretty certain Robin wouldn't open up this group to Liable...wouldn't be worth it to me to do so... And just a lil throw in FYI... I see my distant relatives writings thrown conveinently about to serve, at times, self-absorbed…
God Bless ya Catnip!!! Honestly... Some ppl, "FREE SPEACH".... my point exactly! Do you Vote with this kinda mouth too slander's & joker's of the deathly ill? Kiss ur wife or mama or kiddies with the same heart? & I'll be sure to reread the guidelines, bec I'm pretty certain Robin wouldn't open up this group to Liable...wouldn't be worth it to me to do so... And just a lil throw in FYI... I see my distant relatives writings thrown conveinently about to serve, at times, self-absorbed quotations... Keep in mind that online, you never know who's dining with who the author is... And no, I do not feel superior to anyone! Physcian heal thyself... Not a bad thing at all...but…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2009-09-07:1991841:Comment:3482732009-09-07T21:31:23.824ZDakota Bluehttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/DakotaBlue
Not a bad thing at all...but hopefully not a hestitant reaction one would take should a family member who was just thrown under a bus take. Agreed?
Not a bad thing at all...but hopefully not a hestitant reaction one would take should a family member who was just thrown under a bus take. Agreed? Catnip - there are those who…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2009-09-07:1991841:Comment:3482322009-09-07T21:15:38.658ZDazzling Zoomer Gal Dianahttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/DazzlingZoomerGalDiana
Catnip - there are those who do so as one's friend, (who drop by with caring and thoughtful and fun comments :) and there are those who do so even though <u>they are not one's friend !!!</u> I personally intensely dislike multiples of "happy lovey dovey" comments showing up in my comment box from people who are NOT on my friends list. (And I might add - they never will be.) I find it intrusive, coy and - dare I say it - possibly quite <i>sly</i>.<br />
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Larry is singing from my hymn sheet here I…
Catnip - there are those who do so as one's friend, (who drop by with caring and thoughtful and fun comments :) and there are those who do so even though <u>they are not one's friend !!!</u> I personally intensely dislike multiples of "happy lovey dovey" comments showing up in my comment box from people who are NOT on my friends list. (And I might add - they never will be.) I find it intrusive, coy and - dare I say it - possibly quite <i>sly</i>.<br />
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Larry is singing from my hymn sheet here I suspect - why would a "stranger" intrude into one's space with unwarranted "goodie two shoes" cant? I don't get it. But then - I've been deemed to be rather unevolved . . . so that must be it! /;-> I have read each and every pa…tag:teebeedee.ning.com,2009-09-07:1991841:Comment:3482302009-09-07T21:15:34.105Zthallygalhttp://teebeedee.ning.com/profile/thallygal
I have read each and every page of this discussion. At first I was not going to reply. Have given some consideration to the matter and thought that I could not not reply.<br />
It has been my experience, and that is all that I have to speak from, that when someone says insulting things to another it is to make them feel better about themselves, makes them feel that they can fit in" with whomever they are wanting to "fit in" with.<br />
I reflect to a time in my childhood, when I was teased and picked on…
I have read each and every page of this discussion. At first I was not going to reply. Have given some consideration to the matter and thought that I could not not reply.<br />
It has been my experience, and that is all that I have to speak from, that when someone says insulting things to another it is to make them feel better about themselves, makes them feel that they can fit in" with whomever they are wanting to "fit in" with.<br />
I reflect to a time in my childhood, when I was teased and picked on because I was "fat" It was awful and made me feel very bad...and it seemed that everyone went along with the "in crowd" I have been just as quilty of having a sharp tounge and in the long run it does not make me feel good about myself. I love the saying "When you point a finger at someone you have three pointing back at you"<br />
I have seen a friend of mine slandered on the old TBD. It was not pretty and I for one never doubted she was who she said that she was, a kind gentle soul, sharing her incredible wisdom with others.<br />
I joined a group on here...noticed how petty it was and had the choice to no longer be in that group.<br />
I come here to support others not to cut them down...I believe we all need to be kind to one another and show no malice. That is just my opinion and as you see many people here have many different opinions. When someone says something hurtful to me, I try to say bless you and get on with my life. I have learned along the way in my earth walk that it does me no good to take anything personally and I just have to consider the source. HOpe all of you have a wonderful rest of the day filled with love and laughter<br />
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